Chemistry Is Everything in a Relationship

Painting by Stefan Kuhn, perfect for bringing intimacy into your love life

Art by Stefan Kuhn

Earlier this week, I shared with you Earth Goddess, and I received quite a few emails from the ladies around the world about how excited they are to try the luxurious and healing body creme. Today, after months of testing and weeks of surveying on the name, I am proud to present to you:


An intense spark between two beings that words cannot express, sometimes fleeting, but most often, intoxicating.

Emotionally healing and luxurious whipped body creme made with love from essential oils

Do you feel intoxicated already just from reading the words? I am sure all or some of you have, at one point in your life, experienced that intense and profound connection with another human being.  I know I have. That is where I got the inspiration for the words above. The essential oils and ingredients in this mix are combined together with one purpose in mind. That is to help you attract more intimacy and love into your life and help bring out the inner titan and goddess within you. If you are currently in a romantic relationship, Chemistry will deepen that bond you currently have. Who would not want that? Don’t we all have the desire to experience that chemistry with another being?

The bedroom is a sacred and special place where we let our vulnerability exposed with our significant other or the object of our desire in the most intimate way. It should make you feel sensual, romantic, and free to express your vulnerability. I hope you like the art above by Stefan Kuhn.

I finalized the recipe for Chemistry yesterday and it is going into packaging and will be in our boutique by November 1. I can’t wait to see your expression when you massage it onto your skin.

Top Five Love Life and Sleep Killers?

Today’s blog topic is my favorite: the bedroom, the most neglected space in the home.  This is the space where many people think they can be untidy and messy because no one sees it.  But to me, this is the space that we should take care of because it brings out our sensuality.  Your bedroom should feel inviting and exciting for passionate love-making, but at the same time promote calmness for a good night’s sleep.  So let me ask you this – on a scale of 1-10, (10 being great and 1 being not great at all) how would you rate your bedroom?  If it’s not a 10, then what would it take to make it a 10?

In my experience of decorating and designing bedroom spaces over the past 15 years including my own, here are the top 5 things that are love life and sleep killers…

1. Having a single night stand or two un-identical ones.  You should have identical night stands and bedside lamps to promote balance and respect in your relationship.  If you are single, you still need two identical night stands.  It is important to live as if you are already in a relationship.  For me as a woman, if a guy does not have two identical night stands in his bedroom, it means that he does not care to be in a committed relationship and if he was in a relationship, he would not be as thoughtful and considerate as a partner.

2. Clutter.  If you do not feel comfortable sleeping in the messy chaos of your own bedroom, then why would anyone else want to sleep there with you?  Would you want to see all that clutter before you go to bed and then see it again first thing when you wake up?

3. Electronics and technology.  Honestly, I think the majority of couples and single men I know have a TV, stereo system, computers and laptops, or some kind of electronics in the bedroom.  Once the lights are off, you should be in the bedroom for some passionate hanky panky or simply just to get some restful sleep…make sense?  Your emails can wait!  Besides, what are you doing bring the TV room or the office into your bedroom in the first place?

4. Mirrors.  A mirror facing the bed directly or positioned where you can see yourself while sitting or lying in bed is very bad Feng Shui. It depletes your personal energy when you need it the most: at night while your body is resting and restoring its energy for the next day. A mirror in your bedroom also represents having a third party involved in your love life.  This could be work, health issues, in-laws, friends, or even an affair, none of which are good for a loving and healthy relationship.

5. Bad color and pattern choices for bed spreads.  When it comes to Feng Shui, the secret is the balancing of Yin (feminine-calm) and Yang (masculine-active) energy.  Your bedroom’s purposes are rest and activity (sensual and passionate activity).  Having bed spreads that are black, brown, navy, green, gray, strong blue, plaids, checks, or funky patterned bed sheets will kill your love life. Furthermore, those prints and colors do not promote restful sleep either.  This to me is common sense, but I have seen so many people use these colors in their bedrooms, especially men!

Creating an inviting, relaxing, and sensual bedroom is easy.  All you have to do is have nice mood lighting, soft music, lavender-patchouli scented candles, red, peach or pink flowers, and 100% cotton sheets in white and soft colors or floral patterns along with high-quality down pillows and comforters.  Make sure to balance the yin and yang (feminine and masculine energy).  You do not want too much of one energy over the other.

There are many more tips I can give you related to this topic, but this is a simple list to help get you started. Below I have included some examples of balanced bedroom décor and accents.  Need help?  Contact me…


At the Edgewater Hotel in Seatle, Washington.  It is almost perfect.  I would make the other night stand identical, add some fresh red flowers by the bedside as well as 2 red candles, take out the teddy bear, and add another red pillow for even number.  The natural material bed posts enhances warmness to the space.


At the Shangri-La Hotel, Tokyo where I was staying back in November.  If it was my bedroom, I would make the bed a little fluffier and not as perfectly in place, add 2 red candles in vanilla-patchouli scent, and of course, some fresh red flowers and remover the clock and the phone.

This is an example of flowers that I would fill my bedroom with depending on what is in season.

This is an example of flowers that I would fill my bedroom with depending on what is in season and this is my side of the bed.


The nude male torso sculpture adds a nice touch to the male side of the bed.


This is the kind of sculpture you should have in your bedroom.

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Paintings like this one from Stefan Kuhn are the perfect art for your bedroom wall to promote passion and sensuality.

Spice Up Your Love Life With Art…

Summer is here and that means lots of sizzling hot and heated romance.  Well, perhaps for only those lucky few who have the secret all figured out.  But for many of you, I invite you to keep reading.

If you are currently lacking romance, passion, and or spark in your relationship or in your life, then your bedroom may be the problem.

The bedroom is the most important room in your home. It is a place for rest and calmness, but also a place where love, passion, romance, and sensuality take place.  It’s where all the magic happens.  Take a look at your bedroom for a moment, from the wall colors, to the bed sheets, to the art on the wall, and how it is set up.  What comes to mind for you?  How do you feel?  If you don’t feel calm, at peace, or inspired by sensuality, then how would anyone else feel if they were to walk into your space?

The bedroom is a sacred and special place where we let our guards down, our vulnerability exposed with our significant other or the object of our desire in the most intimate way. It should make you feel sensual, romantic, and comfortable.

I could write a chapter on how to set up your bedroom to attract love and romance and inspire passion, but since it is summer, I want to keep things fun and light for you.  Here are some great pieces of work from my latest favorite artist, Stefan Kuhn. You might consider purchasing one of his pieces of art to put on your bedroom wall.  Could you guess which I bought for mine?  If you would like more tips on how to Feng Shui your bedroom to attract love and romance into your life, let me know and I will help you.