Love House Rules

 

Most men are not even comfortable enough in their own masculinity to wear jewelry. This one believes you need to be balanced in both your male and female energy to be powerful.

It’s not very often that a very manly, confident, and fearless titan comes into my life who inspires my creativity and awakens my soul. And he did exactly those things! My life is no longer the same since my short exchanges with him. Even though our time together was brief because I was leaving for my annual Goddess retreat in the Mediterranean, but every moment I spent with him was well worth it! He challenged me in mind, body, and spirit, especially from a very male perspective. Each time together with him was full of learning and discovering magical and unexpected life surprises. It was fun, creative, spiritually uplifting and thought-provoking. I felt safe, respected, understood, and protected when he was with me. We read each other’s minds on so many levels. He was a fast learner and could keep up with me and adapt to unexpected changes so effortlessly. Perhaps it was because of his athletic background or perhaps God created a real man in him to set an example for all the other men to follow? I don’t know and I will not guess, but all I can say is that it felt like I was with my masculine self.

He taught me so many life lessons without even knowing it. I do believe that he was an angel sent from heaven to help heal me of my emotional wounds, know my self-worth, and to never again settle for any man who is less than my emotional, physical, intellectual, and spiritual equal. He forced me to go within and look at all of the men in my life through a sharper lens, from family members to friends and lovers. What I discovered is that most of the men in my life currently are simply not strong enough for me emotionally and perhaps even physically, with one or two exceptions. 🙂

Looking back, I would often lower my vibration, tone down my passionate nature and creative self-expression just to match the men I was with. But no more, I assure you. I am so clear of the man I want to be with in the future, and the men I want to surround myself with in the now. No more conservative and uptight ones who on the outside appear strong, yet are so emotionally weak and insecure on the inside that I am left feeling unsafe and unprotected when I am with them. Who is to blame for that but my very own self? I can’t believe it took me 46 years to figure this out (late bloomer, I guess…)

Tonight as I was doing my domesticated goddess arts at home, he came into my mind and it inspired me to polish and refine my tu-anh Love House Rules below for all those who are fortunate enough to be invited over. Please feel free to contribute to my list. I hope wherever this special manliness of a soul and God’s gift to women is that he knows I appreciate and respect him deeply. I am forever grateful to him for transforming my life and awakening my divine feminine with his existence. I am sending love and light his way. I will pray for him to always be his best and most powerful self as our world needs his masculine strength! Stay tuned for more inspirational posts to come inspired by my handsome manly Greek Titan teacher and healer!

P.S. Some of you may be thinking perhaps he and I were intimately or romantically involved. The answer is no. He was my titan muse, my angel protector, my inner strength, and my soul teacher! Perhaps one day…time will tell (smiles)

JUST “LOVE”

Hope your Summer has been wonderful and active. Just wanted to share the note below I found from a dear client that I had worked with many many years ago, especially now that I am tu-anh Love and have left my corporate advisory work completely since my birthday this past May. Currently, I am focusing 100% on my passion for designing and creating beautiful things and sharing my love of life with others to enlighten them. Let’s just say that I am happy to be back home to my divine feminine energy and who I truly was meant to be….just simply “LOVE”

Just “LOVE”

(From the Crazy Client, he called himself)

So yes, I do wonder of this person whom came into my life.

She helps so many and changed my whole life.

Changed?

I was on that track a long while ago and somehow lost the lane I was in.

The lane of true happiness and caring and being cared for and finding love and loving.

I looked so long in all the wrong places.

Forcing what wasn’t, wishing it should be

Then that day I found, “Love”

Did God truly manifest love as a person?

I see you daily, and I call you Love

Not just for me, but for my children, and the world, and so many special others.

Wow.

So God created “Love,” and put this in a person.

He named you, “Love”.

I’m so happy I found you.

There is nothing more rewarding than seeing your flowers bloom so radiantly!

21 Questions to Ask About Your Relationship

Motivational image from my father.

Thich Nhat Hanh, my spiritual mentor has given me so much knowledge and wisdom on love and self- enlightenment that I would like to share with you.  The questions below which I took from his book, How to Love, will give you a better understanding of the relationship with the one you love, or with the one whom you believe you once loved. I am hoping that you will take the time to do this short exercise and experience its healing effect. These questions not only will help you in your existing relationship, but also in the strained ones. If you need to make a decision on whether or not to release a relationship that has not fulfilled you emotionally and spiritually, these questions will definitely open your mind to what is true for you and help you find the answer to love.

I, too have a confession to make: I once had a soulmate relationship with an intelligent, kind, handsome, and very chivalrous titan that dragged on and off for over 15 years and that was not good for my emotional well-being. Even though he is no longer in my life, my heart was wishy-washy about letting thoughts of him go. I kept imagining what it would be like if miraculously, he were to change and open his heart to me and allow his vulnerable side to be revealed. I never had the chance to know him deeply and truly. Finally, I have decided to do this heartfelt exercise below just to experience release and closure.  To my surprise, I was able to release him from my heart and healed my soul.  I am complete with this relationship.  I invite you to try answering these questions and experience it for yourself…

20 Questions for Looking into your Relationship – by Thich Nhat Hanh

  1. Are you in love? Yes, I think so.
  2. Are you still in love? Yes, I think so.
  3. Do you want to reconnect with the person who used to be the one you love? I am not really sure.
  4. Do you think that this person is happy? No, I don’t think so.
  5. Do you have the time for each other? I can make time for him, but I cannot answer for him.
  6. Have you been able to preserve your true presence for yourself and for the other person? Yes of course, but I don’t always feel that he is present for me.
  7. Are you capable of offering him or her freshness every day? Of course I am because routine bores me and I like exploring and trying new things.
  8. Do you know how to handle the suffering in yourself? Yes I do, but when it comes to Love, I am not so certain that I have mastered this area.
  9. Are you able to help handle the suffering in the other person? Yes, I believe I am able to do so…but the one I love has never showed his true suffering to me.
  10. Do you understand the roots of your own suffering? Yes I do.
  11. Are you able to understand the suffering in the other person? I have yet to experience any true suffering in him.
  12. Do you have the capacity to help the other person suffer less? Yes I do if he allows me to.
  13. Have you learned the way to calm down your painful feelings and emotions? Yes, I have truly.
  14. Do you have the time to listen to yourself and your deepest desire? Yes I do make the time to listen to myself, but as for my deepest desire related to love, I have not truly made the time.
  15. Do you have the time to listen to him or her and to help him or her suffer less? Yes I can make the time but I haven’t been given the opportunity to know what the suffering is.
  16. Are you capable of creating a feeling of joy for yourself? Yes absolutely, it’s my favorite thing to do.
  17. Are you capable of helping the other person to create a feeling of joy? Yes I am confident I can do that if he gives me a chance to do so. 
  18. Do you feel you have a clear spiritual path? Yes, wholeheartedly.
  19. Do you have the feeling of peace and contentment within yourself? Yes!
  20. Do you know how to nourish your love every day? Oh my Goddess, Yes!

How to Love is my very favorite book and I truly believe that every goddess and titan needs to have it in their personal library collection and read it often. Try to answer these questions for yourself and allow your heart to truly awaken and feel the love that is right for you. Remember to always be truthful with what is in your heart. If you are up for it, answer my question below after you have finished the 20 questions above.

  1. Can you see yourself being with this person for the rest of your life? No, because I do not believe that I can truly be my passionate, creative, wildly-mad-about-life goddess self! So you can imagine that this question obviously helped me to move on and release him from my life.

So there you have it. I am healed from this emotionally unfulfilling relationship. And please don’t even try to entertain the thought of who this titan could possibly be because that is for me to know and for you to always wonder about…. 🙂 xo

This love is real and long-lasting!