What is Finding Strength in Softness?

 

Being a strong woman does not mean losing your femininity. ~tu-anh

Happy New Moon in Gemini, the sign of the twins!

Today’s post is from a very dear goddess who has been a part of my tu-anh love “Awakened and Alive” community for quite sometime. This beautiful expression of herself, her life transformation, and her vulnerability exposed touched me and I thought you would be inspired by it as well. And for those ladies that are constantly sharing with me how they keep attracting weak men, let’s begin by letting your inner feminine come out to play and have some fashionably fearless forties fun!

This is before goddess transformation.

When I first stepped into Tu-anh boutique in 2015, my outer self seemed to stick out like a sore thumb… but my inner self was HOME. What was this magical dimension I had entered into? At the time, my inner masculinity tended to steal the show. What was missing in my life was a full expression of my femininity. Since that time, I’ve explored a life full of ruffles, flowers, spirituality and sensuality… with the unexpected benefits of deeper, more authentic connections and a much more powerful sense of self.

Smiling flirtatiously while I take her photo at our “Awakened” goddess retreat in Dominican Republic in 2017.

What I have learned:

  • A soft and feminine look does not make you appear weak to others – it makes you appear approachable. A way of being that welcomes others into your world creates not only more authentic connections but a much stronger position.
  • Femininity isn’t just a “look”… it’s a way of being that brings out your most authentic, vulnerable self. I am now okay with people helping me with a project or paying for dinner. I also now enjoy expressing how I really feel. While that used to feel like a weakness to me, I’ve experienced more freedom and power than I ever could have imagined by being more open and honest with the people in my life.
  • In dating, if you want to attract a strong, confident and self-assured alpha-male, you have to be willing to show your femininity and vulnerability. I had been searching for the Yin to my Yang – but was giving off Yin vibes myself. The end result? Attracting weaker men who were seeking someone strong to support or help them.
  • Never wait for someone to buy you flowers! Each week, I buy four bouquets of flowers for my home, and have found it to be one of the quickest ways to bring love and light into my world. Similar expressions of self-love, like getting a massage, journaling or meditating, are regular habits that have attracted even more love and abundance into my life.
  • Being ok with vulnerability has opened me up to experiences I would never have allowed myself to be in before, as I would not have wanted anyone to see me fail. From Salsa dancing to karaoke to riding a bike (that’s a long story), I have conquered fears and experienced new levels of joy that my former need to be in control was blocking from my life.
  • The biggest thing I have learned is that I really like being feminine. In 2015, 90% of the items in my closet consisted of black, beige or stripes. I was projecting a false sense of power and control that was surely blocking people and experiences from my life. These days, you’d be hard-pressed to find many tops or dresses in my wardrobe that aren’t white, pink and/or off-shoulder.

This is she recently after a Polished by tu-anh make-up touch-up before an event.

The best thing about tapping into my feminine power is that it has allowed me to express my more masculine side in business without feeling drained. There is now balance between both sides of my personality.  This new way of being has opened me up to a life that I could not have imagined just three years ago… a life of creativity, passion and self-discovery… a life fully-expressed.

Well, I hope you like what you have read. Stay tuned for the reveal of who this amazing and beautiful soul is on her next phase of feminine power awakened and transformed. 🙂 Until next time…~tu-anh

This is she recently at We Will Survive Cancer Charity event with me.

Her closet is no longer of just black. It is more balanced and stylish now.

Gray is the New Black

Love this luxurious knit dress on Julianne from our Mykonos Collection.

I know, it is so easy and safe to do.  Wake up in a rush, walk to your closet, pick out an all-black outfit, and then out the door.  I have been there myself, and actually very frequently during the winter months!  But at our goddess sanctuary and lifestyle boutique,  we all agree that black is chic and classic, but can sometimes be a drain on divine energy. So our new favorite color? Gray, of course!

This might seem like an odd choice for me since I am a lover of vibrant colors, and especially of white. I wear gray, however, when I want to tune into my inner strength and grounding goddess confidence without being overpowered by the energy of the vibrant colors. Gray in my opinion also exudes sophistication, refinement, and elegance.  While everyone else is playing it safe with black, which can sometimes show dust and dirt so easily, gray will make heads turn for a second look.

I hope you like the sample looks of gray in this post from our latest bohemian goddess collection. How about you? Are you ready to switch from black to gray?

Keeping the luxurious Bohemian glam by mixing lace, leather, and pearls!

Keep your style simple, luxurious, effortless, and uncomplicated.

We like our goddesses and Titans to match.

It Will All Be Worth It…The Answer Is Within

Balancing my heart chakra with daily nature walk.

Balancing my heart chakra with daily nature walk.

I apologize for being silent in the past few months and not sharing with you my thoughts, creativity, and life inspiration. I hope life has been treating you well.  I have been working very hard to polish up my life and free myself of emotional baggage, unwanted responsibilities, and most importantly, my fear of abandonment so that I can have a fresh new start in 2016. My life’s mission and vision is clearer and clearer to me day by day.  That motivates me to go within even more to find the answer…the answer to my eternal happiness and goddess zen.  It’s late in the night and I have to get to my prayers and meditation and then bedtime, but I want to leave you with the song below. It is beautiful not only in the words, but in the melodies as well.  It is fitting of my spiritual journey at the moment and my desire to attract my eternal love, happiness, and goddess zen. I hope you like it as much as I do.

“Answer”
by Sarah McLachlan

I will be the answer
At the end of the line
I will be there for you
While you take the time
In the burning of uncertainty
I will be your solid ground
I will hold the balance
If you can’t look down

If it takes my whole life
I won’t break, I won’t bend
It will all be worth it
Worth it in the end
Cause I can only tell you what I know
That I need you in my life
When the stars have all gone out
You’ll still be burning so bright

Cast me gently
Into morning
For the night has been unkind
Take me to a
Place so holy
That I can wash this from my mind
The memory of choosing not to fight

If it takes my whole life
I won’t break, I won’t bend
It will all be worth it
Worth it in the end
‘Cause I can only tell you what I know
That I need you in my life
When the stars have all burned out
You’ll still be burning so bright

Cast me gently
Into morning
For the night has been unkind