What tu-anh Will Do Before 2014

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Stretching outside of beach house #34 of Castle Hill Inn.  I am all about creating balance.  Doing yoga and meditation this past year has helped me tremendously and I will continue to do more of that in 2014.

Can you believe it?  Another year has passed.  As we say goodbye to 2013, here is another opportunity for a fresh start.

The next two weeks for me will be all about out with the old and in with the new.  That also means leaving behind what is not working and continuing with more of what is actually working in both my professional and personal life. Every year around this time, I get excited about what will be coming in the New Year.  I guess it has to do a lot with my childhood where change and uncertainty happened almost daily – that I so much have gotten used to.  This is why I adapt to new things, new people, new environments and surroundings, and new energy very easily.  I actually love it!

Below is a list of things I will be doing before year end that I want to share with you. Perhaps you may feel inspired to do the same as well. I know there is not much time left, but many of the things will not take that long if you do not over think, over analyze, or get overly emotional about them.  Trust me, this will help you to have another amazing new year. So see what you can do before the first of the year.  I will keep you posted on my progress as well!

1. Your office.  Declutter and organize.  Get rid of things that do not matter and file away things that do matter.  Do the same with your emails and voicemails. When you are done, then have the office maids in there doing a final cleaning.  And for good Feng Shui, buy a lucky bamboo or a nice healthy orchid and put it on your desk.

2. Your home.  (Warning: this may take longer if you get too emotional and attached to things.) First, go around every single room and get rid of dead plants and dead flowers.  They do not represent life.  Then water the living ones and trim away the dead leaves. Give them some love! Next, go around and tackle all the closets. Do you have clothes and shoes that you have not worn in years, thinking that you may be able to fit in them again one day?  If that one day has not come yet it never will, sorry to say.  Just donate them to your local Goodwill.  Same goes with other junks in the closets that you have no use for.

The kitchen in America today is a place for social gatherings, that is why in real estate having a nice and open kitchen will increase the value of the home.  So make sure to clean out the fridge, the pantry, any excess of things you do not need or food that is unhealthy for you.  If you have windows in your kitchen, add a touch of life with potted herbs.

As for the walls throughout your home, take down artwork and pictures that do not make you feel good when looking at them; only put up art that you love.  And if you want to start a new and healthy relationship, get rid of photos and letters of ex-wives, ex-girlfriends, ex-lovers, ex-boyfriends, ex-husbands, whatever you call them.  Trash them or put them in a storage space that is far far far away from your home.  Please note, the garage does not count as storage. You should be cleaning and organizing that space, too.

Now, let’s take care of the most important space: your bedroom! If you want to take your current relationship to the next level or attract a loving and healthy relationship, buy new sheets, comforters, pillows, blankets, towels, rugs, toiletries, and even new curtains.  The worst thing you can do for that special love of your life is making that person share those things from your past.  It is unfair and not good Feng Shui.  Please remember that this also includes your lingerie, pajamas, boxers, undergarments, etc. that you wore while you were with other partners.  I know you are thinking this is costly and a lot of effort, but it does not have to be if you keep things simple. This is only for the serious and the committed, definitely, not for the players…Need some ideas to spice up your love life?

Once you are done with your home, also make sure to have the maids come in and do an overall cleaning.

3. Your mobile phone.  Some of you may already do this, but you should be going through your mobile phones and delete unpleasant text messages, photos of past partners and lovers, and voicemails every few weeks or so.  Then scroll down your contact list and delete contacts that bring out negative feelings in you or you have no further use for them, except if they are members of your family.  They are who they are and you can not change them.  No matter how tempting it is, do not delete your own family.  It’s mean and bad karma!

4.  Your relationships.  When was the last time you had a relationship check up? This includes your sweetheart, your parents, your siblings, your friends, your bosses, your peers, and any one else that is important to you.  Reach out to them and ask them on a scale from 1-10 how would they rate your relationship, and if not a 10, what would it take to make it a 10?  If you are still harboring resentments or issues with anyone, just get it on the table and have an open talk about it.  Get that resolved and don’t allow it to linger around into the new year.  Need help on how to do this? Click here to find out.

5. Your appearance.  This is simple.  Get a hair cut or touch up your roots if they are starting to show not in a flattering way.  Get a pedicure, manicure, wax, shave, whatever you need to do to look good and feel good for the new year.  You should do this regularly.  When you look good, you feel good and you become more confident, too.

6. Your mind.  As my business mentor Dr. Alan Weiss mentioned this week at the Million Dollar Consulting College I attended in Newport, RI, “The key to having ideas is to empty your head.”  Our minds are like computers.  If we fill them with junk and nonsense, it will slow us down.  If we want to be more creative and productive at work, why not empty the stuff that is in our heads? And from a personal perspective, if you get rid of the emotional clutter, resentments, chatters, and negative self talk, that will ease a lot of the stress and prevent aging, too.  Want to know how to free up your mind?

7.  Send a handwritten thank you note to someone special in your life.  Now that the above list is done, why not write thank you notes to people who have made a difference in your life this year and are important to you?  Make sure this is a handwritten notecard, no emails, voicemails, texts or phone calls.  Write it and send it via postal service.  It may just be for one special person – you decide.

8. Pray, meditate and appreciate.  Take a moment to say a prayer of thanks for the blessings in your life, for the opportunity to live, for the people in your life, for food, for shelter, for strength…If you do not pray, then meditate and focus on appreciating all the wonderful things in your life…visualize more of that. For me, I go the extra step after praying and meditating by writing in my journal and listing those appreciations.   Something like…..I am thankful for …I could write a book on all my appreciations 🙂

9. Your health.  In between the to dos, please remember to exercise, eat healthy, and get at least 7-8 hours of sleep a day.  You must take care of your mind, body, and spirit, not to mention that it helps prevent aging, too.  Try to fit in at least 45 minutes a day of walking, running, dancing, weights, sports, yoga, or shopping and fun girl time, whatever activity works for you.

10. Your time.  Okay, so mission accomplished!  How do you feel?  Now it is time for some self love.  We know that money can buy many things, but it can not buy time. When was the last time you took a long weekend off somewhere by yourself?  If you have not, choose a destination that you like and focus on doing only things you love while on vacation. Don’t bother to check emails or voicemails.  Just enjoy and have fun. The focus is only on YOU!  I know for givers and pleasers, this is hard to do, but just do it.  It’s worth it!  I have already planned mine to La Casa Que Canta!  Make sure to stay healthy while traveling too!

Now that you have done all of the above, it’s time to simply just relax.  Take a day off and do nothing, watch a movie and chill with your pet and sweetheart under a warm blanket, or do what I normally love to do, take a hot bubble bath with sea salt and fresh lemon juice, light up some patchouli/lavender scented candles, drink champagne or calming tea, play soft French music in the background and just think nothing.  Simply relax and enjoy being you.

Keep me posted if you end up using this list.  I plan on finishing all of this by December 30th.  Let’s keep each other posted on the progress.  Good luck and Happy Holidays….love…tu-anh

Free Your Mind…The Rest Will Follow

10 Ways to Make Your Life More Productive and Free of Stress

photoWe all know our mind is like a computer. Over time, we acquire a lot of  information,  baggage, emotional junk, life experiences, and  issues that slow us down.  If we do not do a check up every once in a while to clean and declutter our mind and life of lingering issues and take care of unfinished projects and unresolved issues, then that will cause us to shut down or crash.  Here are 10 tips that would help make your life better, more alive,  more efficient and more productive .

  1. MEDITATE often.  I started meditating religiously a year ago and I have to say that I am now calmer, more focused, and more centered.  It is now part of my 15-minute morning routine.  Meditation helps clear your mind, grounds your emotions as well as your sense of well being, and helps you focus better at work.  To start, try Deepak Chopra’s 21-day Abundance Meditation and stick with it for 21
    straight days to see some major transformation.  Deepak has a soothing voice and the background music is pleasant as well.
  2. CHECKLISTS help you to get things done and stay organized.  Make a to do list daily and check it off as you go along.  Nothing feels better than knowing that you have accomplished something even if it is a small task.
  3. FOCUS on doing one task at a time before moving to the next.  Do not try to multitask, that will only cause confusion and stress. (And it’s counterproductive to a healthy mind!)
  4. READ something inspirational everyday.  Whether it be a poem, a famous quote, a line from the bible, a page from your favorite book, or try one of my favorite little motivational book, Your Best Life Now by Joel Osteen.  By doing this, it will lift up your spirit and free your mind of negative thoughts.
  5. HONOR your personal time. My daily ritual is a fresh cup of coffee in the morning and a stroll around the garden to admire its beauty and smell the blooms that happened overnight while I was asleep.  After that, I write down my affirmations and speak them out loud to myself.   I love this ritual because I am intentionally setting aside time to manifest all that I desire and continue to enjoy the blessings that come my way.
  6. PRIORITIZE your time.  Some things in your life need more focus than others.  Make sure to prioritize how you spend your day.  For me personally, I try to make a commitment to not talk about work after I have left work.  So if I am spending time with someone I care about, my attention is 100% focused on them.
  7. WRITE down how you feel when there is stress or simply when you feel like expressing your thoughts.  Keep a journal. Whenever there are lingering thoughts of uncertainty, negativity, or fear, just write them down.  This will help rid you of your mental clutter and mind chatter.  For me, sometimes those thoughts are private that I do not feel like sharing out loud with others, instead, I write them down in my journal at bedtime.  I can tell you that 9 out of 10 times, it makes me feel so much better.
  8. photo (1)DISTANCE yourself from negative people and surroundings.  I know this can be hard because if it is a loved one, you can’t just ignore them.  I am in this situation many times and what I try to do is stay focused on all the positive things that surrounds me so their negativity does not bring me down.  And if it is your work environment that is negative, either deal with it or get a job that you love going to.   Don’t allow external influences to affect your inner positivity and take the joy out of your life.
  9. CLEAN up your diet. When you eliminate unhealthy (“junk”) food from your diet, you will not only feel better and have more energy, but you will look better.  Fill your plate with fruits and veggies.  I especially love bananas, berries, and fresh spinach, and don’t forget fish and eggs!  Just think of it like this: if God did not create it, then don’t eat it.  It’s that simple.  For more on getting healthy, check out www.drberg.com, who is an expert on the matter.
  10. EXCERCISE! It’s good for your health, your body, your mind,  and sex drive. Your physical well being is fundamental to your mental well being and should be a part of your daily routine. Need I say more?

Good luck and let me know if you have any questions or need guidance. Next month, I will share with you more on this, but first, you must take baby steps.  I also invite you to email me and share your successes.

By the way, if you are not going away this Memorial Day weekend, now is the perfect time to start on this list.  Get organized and make your life better!  What are you waiting for?