My Old Soul and Its Quest for Love

When your heart is open and balanced, your plants can feel it, too!

I am really not bothered by my high expectations in others, especially in my future forever “til death do us part” partner in crime and lover. You have to be a very self-aware and secure man in your own confident Titan skin to handle a modern day goddess like moi.  Since my divorce four years ago, I have been in a love affair with myself and having a lot of fun enjoying my own company and exploring a life full of freedom and creative self-expression.I have been told that I am too “picky,” and that my expectations are too high. But the truth is, I am an old soul and I have a big mission to accomplish in this lifetime that I cannot afford to lose time over distractions that do not serve my purpose. For years, my love life has been 2nd priority to my work of bringing beauty, sensuality and light to others.  Don’t get me wrong: if miraculously, I happen to stumble upon a handsome, gallant and honest titan who shares the same values, dreams and life’s aspirations as me, I will ultimately follow the guidance of my heart. But until then, if it takes forever, I will wait for that perfect true SOUL LOVE instead of settling for someone that is just “Good enough”.I have been wanting to write a post about old souls and true love for a very long time, but this article below was perfectly written for me and for many old souls out there who may be somewhat confused or thinking that something is wrong with them. I want to share this with you that a dear goddess friend sent me a few weeks ago. After reading it, I felt like Brianna Wiest, the author, was thinking of me when she wrote this. I will elaborate on this article with more detailed explanation later, but in the meantime, what do you think?

12 Reasons Why Old Souls Have Such A Hard Time Finding Love

1. They have a strong sense of identity. They know who they are, which means they also know – specifically – what they do and do not want in a partner, what works and what doesn’t. While this is fantastic in terms of being able to choose wisely, it ultimately diminishes their pool of prospects pretty significantly.

2. Left unchecked, their hyper-intuitiveness can wreck relationships. Often prone to overthinking because of how deeply sensitive they are, their capacity to worry and make assumptions can break relationships that don’t have a perfectly strong foundation.

3. Many are in the throes of twin flame relationshipsThey’re attached or are with people who are not their “forever” people, rather, intense connections they’re meant to learn, and rapidly expand, from.

4. They often have a greater purpose that must be attended to first – one that love would distract them from. They usually have to accomplish quite a bit on their own before they find love – this is because old souls love deeply, and completely. To be given love too soon would keep them from the other important things they are here to do.

Nini Love and I have a mission to bring joy to the world around us!

5. They will not settle for anything less than soulmate love.They require a lot more than just a surface-level, “average” relationship. They absolutely will not settle, and sometimes, that means biting the bullet and being alone for longer than what’s “average” as well.

6. While many people can bring them passion, few can bring compatibility. Because they feel so deeply and others find them so fascinating, it’s easy for them to find infatuation, but to be with someone who is truly their best friend, deepest confidant *and* lover is a challenge.

7. They’re less inclined to go out and meet people in modern ways. Even if they have nothing against online dating, it doesn’t always come naturally for them, nor does finding a random hookup at a bar or being set up blindly seem appealing.

8. They’re natural healers, and often attract people who need help, not love. And that attraction is reciprocated. There’s almost nothing that feels better to an old soul than being able to help someone who truly needs it. However, at some point in time, it’s crucial for them to realize that they have to choose a partner, not a student, or a charity case.

9. They dislike the “game.” Dating is inherently exhausting to an older-spirited person. Feigning disinterest for the sake of looking “cool” or knowing which faux pas other people find off-putting (how long after the first date do you text again?) isn’t instinctive to them, and can stress them out more than they ever find it “fun.”

10. Their standards are sky-high. They expect a lot from themselves, so likewise, they expect a lot from their partners. While this is a great thing, it’s another quality that has to be kept in check: it’s more important to be able to accept the qualities that aren’t deal-breakers than it is to just write a person off because they’re imperfect.

When I am alone is when my dreams are manifesting.

11. They have baggage.People who developed their inner selves quickly did so for a reason: they had to cope, they had to grow, or they had to learn from some challenging experiences that life set up for them. While this is a great thing on its own, unresolved issues can often re-manifest in close relationships.

12. They feel fear as intensely as they feel love.The degree to which they love something is proportionate to how much they fear losing it, or not being “good enough” for it. They don’t just love intensely, they feel everything else intensely, too, and sometimes, that gets in the way of the really good things in front of them.

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What Makes a Great Salesperson?

Playing my favorite sport by the water keeps me happy and stress-free.

With the numerous options of articles, videos, podcasts, books, and creative tutorials out there on how to train salespeople to be great at selling, how does one even know where to begin?

In my opinion, everything that we do daily is selling. When we inspire someone to join our favorite charity or eat at our favorite restaurant or try something new with us, we are selling. If a banker convinces us to change to another type of account, that is selling. If someone asks us out on a date, that is selling. If a mother can convince her child to go to bed early so that the child will not get tired in the morning, that is selling. I hope you get the idea of what I am trying to convey.

To me, the meaning of selling is to engage, to intrigue, to persuade, to seduce, to entice, to enroll, and so on. Selling does not always have to be in exchange for a material thing or for money. For example, if you encourage someone to take action on your idea to improve their work or personal life, that is selling.  I feel like I have been selling my whole life. Always engaging and enrolling or inspiring, and motivating someone somewhere to try something that I am excited about at the moment.

In order to thrive as a salesperson, there are certain qualities I think a good salesperson must possess. Can those be taught and trained? I am not sure. Why don’t you read on to see what I have to say and then make that decision for yourself and your team?

Passion: I have seen many people in a sales position because it is a job, and not for the love of the product or the service offerings they are trying to sell. So much of sales is about sharing and communicating your enthusiasm and excitement about what you are selling. If you are not passionate about it, how can your potential customers be feeling the same? A great salesperson is genuinely and enthusiastically interested in what they are selling. And most often, you can see that in their body language, their positive facial expressions, and their upbeat tone of voice, too!

Knowledge: Study your products and services and know them well so that you can help fulfill the needs, desires, and respond to your customer questions promptly with well-informed and accurate data. Be the living example of it. Instead of spending time keeping track of what your competitors are doing, spend time giving your customers a unique, exclusive experience with you.

Honesty: A good salesperson is honest. Potential clients are watching and listening to you very intently, and can sense if a person is sincere or not. When you are honest and maintain integrity in your promises and delivery to your customers, you will build trust with them. And trust is the most important element in keeping any relationship strong.

Asking and Listening: When you are attentive to your customers’ wants and needs, you ask them specific questions about what they are looking for, their thoughts and concerns about the products and services, and then repeat their responses back to them to ensure them you have heard them correctly.  This is called active listening. The best sales experiences happen when your client feels that you know exactly what they want and need because you have done your homework of asking and listening. Soon, you will become a trusted adviser to the customer and transactions in the future will be simple and easy.

Detail Oriented: It’s the little things that matter. A great salesperson is very detail oriented. Their actions are fully thought out and performed with precision.  They know that every step they take and every little thing they do will be used by the potential customer to measure the worth of their brand or product in order to make the purchasing decision.

Polished and Positive: Finally, a polished image and a positive attitude are the key ingredients to get you in the door. It is always better to be overdressed than underdressed. When you look your best, you will feel your best. Your confidence and joy will be contagious and everyone around you will want to have what you have. Interestingly, it has been scientifically proven that our mental and emotional well-being skyrocket when we are looking our best. When you are polished from head to toe, your confidence shines through. You are more mentally alert and prepared for what is coming at you, regardless of how sudden or challenging. As they say, you do not have a second chance to make a first impression.

These are my top 6 qualities that a great salesperson must possess. But my #1 quality in a great salesperson is Loving Life. If a person is in love with their life and themselves, they will highly value their time and will only choose jobs that they enjoy and are passionate about. Work will not feel like work if you love what you do and are true to yourself. It will feel like you are living your dream life. And that is moi 99.9%! (smiles)

Being able to walk to the water within minutes from work makes my life even more powerful.

For the Love of a Red Dress

Nothing better than being in a red dress surrounded by all things masculine!

With the hot summer coming soon, I am looking forward to the warm sexy days where I can just toss on a beautiful dress and my hand-made Grecian sandals, and out the door I go.  I have always loved the ease and feminine appeal of dresses, and red is one of my favorite hues.  There’s something about a woman in a red dress that is so powerful and alluring, don’t you think?

Take a look at the mini film below that is part of my new tu-anh Boutique YouTube video series. In it, I’ve styled model Alex Marie in a long, sexy cotton Greek Goddess dress, which is perfect for hot summer nights out, a Sunday brunch in Alexandria, or a sexy date at home with yourself on the couch with champagne and candlelight.  Or, if you are having a day where you don’t feel your best self, I suggest you put on something with the color red. Doing so boosts your confidence, your power, and your passionate side, and helps you awaken your inner feminine divine.  Doesn’t Alex Marie look like she is ready to take on the world in my video below?

How are you styling your wardrobe for the summer? Is there red in your closet? I always love the fashion inspiration my fans provide, as well as the inspiration from the places I travel to!

The red section is a staple at our sanctuary.