What is Finding Strength in Softness?

 

Being a strong woman does not mean losing your femininity. ~tu-anh

Happy New Moon in Gemini, the sign of the twins!

Today’s post is from a very dear goddess who has been a part of my tu-anh love “Awakened and Alive” community for quite sometime. This beautiful expression of herself, her life transformation, and her vulnerability exposed touched me and I thought you would be inspired by it as well. And for those ladies that are constantly sharing with me how they keep attracting weak men, let’s begin by letting your inner feminine come out to play and have some fashionably fearless forties fun!

This is before goddess transformation.

When I first stepped into Tu-anh boutique in 2015, my outer self seemed to stick out like a sore thumb… but my inner self was HOME. What was this magical dimension I had entered into? At the time, my inner masculinity tended to steal the show. What was missing in my life was a full expression of my femininity. Since that time, I’ve explored a life full of ruffles, flowers, spirituality and sensuality… with the unexpected benefits of deeper, more authentic connections and a much more powerful sense of self.

Smiling flirtatiously while I take her photo at our “Awakened” goddess retreat in Dominican Republic in 2017.

What I have learned:

  • A soft and feminine look does not make you appear weak to others – it makes you appear approachable. A way of being that welcomes others into your world creates not only more authentic connections but a much stronger position.
  • Femininity isn’t just a “look”… it’s a way of being that brings out your most authentic, vulnerable self. I am now okay with people helping me with a project or paying for dinner. I also now enjoy expressing how I really feel. While that used to feel like a weakness to me, I’ve experienced more freedom and power than I ever could have imagined by being more open and honest with the people in my life.
  • In dating, if you want to attract a strong, confident and self-assured alpha-male, you have to be willing to show your femininity and vulnerability. I had been searching for the Yin to my Yang – but was giving off Yin vibes myself. The end result? Attracting weaker men who were seeking someone strong to support or help them.
  • Never wait for someone to buy you flowers! Each week, I buy four bouquets of flowers for my home, and have found it to be one of the quickest ways to bring love and light into my world. Similar expressions of self-love, like getting a massage, journaling or meditating, are regular habits that have attracted even more love and abundance into my life.
  • Being ok with vulnerability has opened me up to experiences I would never have allowed myself to be in before, as I would not have wanted anyone to see me fail. From Salsa dancing to karaoke to riding a bike (that’s a long story), I have conquered fears and experienced new levels of joy that my former need to be in control was blocking from my life.
  • The biggest thing I have learned is that I really like being feminine. In 2015, 90% of the items in my closet consisted of black, beige or stripes. I was projecting a false sense of power and control that was surely blocking people and experiences from my life. These days, you’d be hard-pressed to find many tops or dresses in my wardrobe that aren’t white, pink and/or off-shoulder.

This is she recently after a Polished by tu-anh make-up touch-up before an event.

The best thing about tapping into my feminine power is that it has allowed me to express my more masculine side in business without feeling drained. There is now balance between both sides of my personality.  This new way of being has opened me up to a life that I could not have imagined just three years ago… a life of creativity, passion and self-discovery… a life fully-expressed.

Well, I hope you like what you have read. Stay tuned for the reveal of who this amazing and beautiful soul is on her next phase of feminine power awakened and transformed. 🙂 Until next time…~tu-anh

This is she recently at We Will Survive Cancer Charity event with me.

Her closet is no longer of just black. It is more balanced and stylish now.

My Blue Moon Mood

My favorite way to relax and recharge.

For most people, the Libra Blue Moon is associated with sadness and sorrow. As for myself, I consider it to be a magical sign of rebirth from Heaven. In order to be reborn, I must hold myself accountable to cleanse and release myself of thoughts and emotions that are holding me back from attracting true love.  And I am ready to do so with clarity and confidence!

Today, after my morning coffee ritual and gratitude practice, I am inspired by these beautiful words below (Andrew Lloyd Webber from The Phantom of the Opera). Please do not misunderstand that I need a titan to rescue me in any dramatic way. I have been the light and strength for myself and for others my whole life. This is a nice feeling of desire knowing that there is a Masculine counterpart who complements and balances me and who will protect me always and forever. But what I really desire most, is a man of my equal in mind, body, and spirit and who connects with me emotionally, intimately, intellectually, and energetically. Obviously, I must search from within, but do you know of such a titan that would be a match for me? (smiles)

Happy Friday with love…

~tu-anh

Phantom of the Opera

No more talk of darkness,
Forget these wide-eyed fears;
I’m here, nothing can harm you,
My words will warm and calm you.

Let me be your freedom,
Let daylight dry your tears;
I’m here, with you, beside you,
To guard you and to guide you.

Say you love me every waking moment,
Turn my head with talk of summertime.
Say you need me with you now and always;
Promise me that all you say is true,
That’s all I ask of you.

Let me be your shelter,
Let me be your light;
You’re safe, no one will find you,
Your fears are far behind you.

All I want is freedom,
A world with no more night;
And you, always beside me,
To hold me and to hide me.

Then say you’ll share with me one love, one lifetime;
Let me lead you from your solitude.
Say you need me with you, here beside you,
Anywhere you go, let me go too,
That’s all I ask of you

Say you’ll share with me one love, one lifetime;
Say the word and I will follow you.

Share each day with me,
Each night, each morning.

Anywhere you go, let me go to
Love me, that’s all I ask of you.

And soon you’ll be beside me!

You’ll guard me and you’ll guide me

Say you’ll share with me one love,
One lifetime say the word and I will follow you
Share each day with me, each night, each morning

He is grounded and she is playful. Balance!

Rose Quartz, the Gem of Love

Rose Quartz helps you to attract romantic and unconditional love.

Are you under stress and deprived of love and romance? Are you currently suffering from a broken heart? Or are there feelings of anger, jealousy, and resentment deep within you? If you have answered yes to one or all of those questions, then you must incorporate rose quartz and its divine feminine power in your life. There are rose quartz in my goddess jewelry collection at the sanctuary and recently, I have just added some beautiful semi-precious gem stones and the Madagascan rose quartz is one of my favorite healing stones for the modern day goddess clientele. I love its powerful and sensual energy so much that I even bought a one for my night stand to keep the romance alive in my life.  Also known as the “Gem of Love,” Rose Quartz is associated with femininity, compassion, and unconditional love. It helps to open up the Heart Chakra allowing it to give and receive love without emotional constraints and to keep one’s aura inviting to the opposite sex. Rose Quartz has been used in very old cultures for their highly effective ability to balance the emotions, bring calm and transform our hearts into tremendous sources of unconditional love and light without bounds and without fears. It frees us from past wounds and trauma, no matter how deep. It also helps the dying to lovingly and peacefully transition into the afterlife.

When you have a chance, come visit our goddess sanctuary and gift yourself something of Rose Quartz from our collection, a truly magical and sensual gem stone of love and divine feminine energy. Until next time.

My favorite inspirational morning cup of coffee as part of manifesting my dreams meditation.