Happy National Honesty Day!

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I know I am a day late, but happy National Honesty day! This is a day for us to celebrate all those wonderful relationships in our life that we already have straightforward communication with.  And for those relationships that are not there yet, I invite you to reach out to those that you would like to improve your relationship with and ask them, “On a scale from 1-10, how would you rate our relationship when it comes to open and honest communication?” If their answer is not a 10, ask them, “What would it take to make it a 10?” 

In my opinion, every day should be a day where we practice and model the behavior we seek in others when it comes to open and honest communication. Take a few minutes and watch the video below from one of my favorite titan clients, mentor, and dear friend who is the top honesty expert in the world.

Join me in spreading this message and encouraging all those around us to embrace living a life full of truth, self-expression, integrity, and honesty. You may have heard “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you,” which is really another way of explaining the “law of reflection.”  What this means is that when seeking open, honest communication in others, we have to make sure that we are setting that standard for ourselves. So let’s begin, shall we?

Abdulah, The Positive Homeless Woman


Nini meeting a new homeless friend and keeping her company.

Finally, I ran into her again. When I first moved to my new creative workspace, I would see Abdulah, the homeless woman, from time to time sitting in front of the vacant building a few doors down, surrounded by bags, rags and newspapers.  Sometimes, it was cold and I would see her curled up in a corner.  Unlike other homeless strangers who I run into occasionally, Abdulah never begged for money or asked me for anything. Some days when I worked late and ordered dinner for myself to take home, I would see her on my way to the car and gave her my dinner. She never asked – it’s me that asked her if she wanted some food.  Then she would say yes.  When I gave her my food, she always said, “thank you” and that was all.

At one point, I even thought about asking her to clean our office if she wanted to make some money, but we are so organized and neat, the office does not need much cleaning.  I hadn’t seen her for awhile in Old Town Alexandria, and I often wondered how she is doing.  To my surprise, this past Friday, Nini and I were walking to the office and we ran into her in the same spot! I was so happy. This time, I stopped to talk with her. She told me her name is Abdulah, she’s from North Carolina, had lost her job, and made her way up to the DC area looking for a new one. I offered her my suitcase that I had in the office (see photo) so she wouldn’t have as many bags to carry.

When I asked her if she ate anything and she said no. I sent my 16-year-old intern, Kat, to give her $20 for some food and coffee. Kat gave her the money and told Abdulah that she would pray for her. In response, Abdulah simply smiled and said, “It’ll get better.”

This was such a great way to start a Friday for Kat, Nini, and I. We felt uplifted and inspired by how positive Abdulah was, despite her current situation.

What a great lesson for us all!




Be Kind To The Janitor! He Might Be Your Boss One Day!

photoI was touched when I read Gabe Sonnier‘s story, an elementary school principal in Louisiana who began his career as a janitor and through hard work, commitment and dedication, made his way to where he is now as the head of the school!

Inspired by his boss while working full-time as a janitor at the age of 39, he began taking classes after work to achieve a teaching degree and soon landed his first teaching job. He then went on to get his Master’s degree and the rest is history.

Gabe’s success story reminds me of my father. When we first came to the United States in the early 80’s, he juggled between bagging groceries and pumping gas to help my mother support our family. On top of all that, he understood the importance of a good education and with the help of my mother, put himself through computer school at night! All of his hard work paid off.  He got a stable professional job for years and just retired last year from the IRS.

People like my father and Gabe teach us a very important lesson. As Gabe says, “Don’t let your situation that you’re in now define what you’re going to become later…it’s not where you start, it’s how you finish.” 

I do not know Gabe, but I love him already from reading about his extremely motivational story. You just never know-your cleaning person may be your next boss someday! So be kind to everyone you encounter, regardless of the position they have.  Enjoy the inspirational video clip below on Gabe!

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