Happy National Honesty Day!

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I know I am a day late, but happy National Honesty day! This is a day for us to celebrate all those wonderful relationships in our life that we already have straightforward communication with.  And for those relationships that are not there yet, I invite you to reach out to those that you would like to improve your relationship with and ask them, “On a scale from 1-10, how would you rate our relationship when it comes to open and honest communication?” If their answer is not a 10, ask them, “What would it take to make it a 10?” 

In my opinion, every day should be a day where we practice and model the behavior we seek in others when it comes to open and honest communication. Take a few minutes and watch the video below from one of my favorite titan clients, mentor, and dear friend who is the top honesty expert in the world.

Join me in spreading this message and encouraging all those around us to embrace living a life full of truth, self-expression, integrity, and honesty. You may have heard “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you,” which is really another way of explaining the “law of reflection.”  What this means is that when seeking open, honest communication in others, we have to make sure that we are setting that standard for ourselves. So let’s begin, shall we?

Communication Can Make or Break Your Relationships

Recently,  I shared with you the importance of saying “Thank You” to colleagues, friends, and family and how you must be authentic when you say “thank you” in order for it to be truly meaningful.  Likewise, when you are giving someone constructive feedback or expressing a concern, you must be honest and straightforward.  I know it is not always easy, especially when you are a conflict-averse person.

Steven Gaffney recently shared on Virginia This Morning, “People never say what really needs to get said,” both at work and at home.  As a result, resentment or fear can build up over time, causing tension in relationships and keeping people from being less than their best selves. And I can completely relate to this.

Click on the image below to view the full interview, and then I invite you to take a moment and think about your own communication skills.  Are you sharing what needs to be said to the people who matter in your life? If not, why not? What is holding you back? Is it fear? What are you afraid of? How has it been working for you being this way? How deep and meaningful are your relationships?  Life is too short and too precious to not be living and expressing our truths.

When you have honest and open communication in your relationships, you have trust, respect, security, honor, and loyalty. And when you have all those things in your relationships, you can solve any problems that arise and handle any setbacks that come your way. Over the years, I have had quite a few falling outs in my business and personal life. Often, I am the one surprised and wondering: “If they had told me and I had known, all of the stress could have been avoided.” Well, we all learn and grow from those experiences. Most importantly, what can we change or do to make sure that all of our relationships are strong?

So think about the relationships in your life where an open conversation would make a true difference and help make that relationship richer and much more meaningful.  How about making the time to have that conversation today, tomorrow, or this weekend? Keep me posted 🙂
Steven Gaffney on Virginia This Morning

Fear Does Not Stop Us, We Stop Ourselves

Today’s topic is one of my favorites.  Fear is an unpleasant or distressing emotion aroused by impending danger or pain, and this emotion is often caused by our imaginations. A lot of things have happened to me in the past 12 months, and I feel like fear and I are best friends.  We all have fears and that is normal, but allowing our fears to get in the way of our own happiness is unhealthy mentally and physically.

This is the year that I am putting my fears away in a storage room and going for my dream- the dream of bringing love, beauty, and truth to the world.  This dream starts with my boutique opening on November 1st.

Here is an inspirational chapter out of Steven Gaffney‘s book, Honesty Works! entitled “Overcome Your Fears” that I thought you might want to read and give some thought to this week.

Fear is a normal and appropriate response to many of the challenges we face in life. The problem comes when fear becomes a reason for not accomplishing something. The reality is that we often do things in spite of fear – we ride scary amusement park rides, meet future in-laws, go on job interviews, or go sky-diving. Fear is not the real reason we do not do something; it’s just an excuse we allow ourselves to use in order to get off the hook.

For instance, fear of public speaking is one of the top fears people have. Yet few of us never speak in public! We may dislike speaking in front of large audiences, but we can learn to control the fear. Johnny Carson, Carly Simon, Carol Burnett and Barbra Streisand all had fears of performing in public – yet, they became very successful. They learned techniques to handle and overcome their fears.

The truth is that fear does not stop us from doing anything; we stop ourselves.

Here are five tips to help you gain control and overcome your fear.

1. Channel your fear into useful energy and actions.
Instead of bottling up that nervous energy, channel it into actions, such as preparation or planning. Walter Cronkite said, “It is natural to have butterflies. The secret is to have them fly in formation.” For example, if you are nervous about a job interview, write down interview questions and answers you are worried about, then practice them out loud. You might even take a practice ride to the interview site or prepare your interview outfit the day before. Do not bottle up your fear – use it.

Click here to learn the remaining five tips to overcoming your fears. How will you take action today?