21 Questions to Ask About Your Relationship

Motivational image from my father.

Thich Nhat Hanh, my spiritual mentor has given me so much knowledge and wisdom on love and self- enlightenment that I would like to share with you.  The questions below which I took from his book, How to Love, will give you a better understanding of the relationship with the one you love, or with the one whom you believe you once loved. I am hoping that you will take the time to do this short exercise and experience its healing effect. These questions not only will help you in your existing relationship, but also in the strained ones. If you need to make a decision on whether or not to release a relationship that has not fulfilled you emotionally and spiritually, these questions will definitely open your mind to what is true for you and help you find the answer to love.

I, too have a confession to make: I once had a soulmate relationship with an intelligent, kind, handsome, and very chivalrous titan that dragged on and off for over 15 years and that was not good for my emotional well-being. Even though he is no longer in my life, my heart was wishy-washy about letting thoughts of him go. I kept imagining what it would be like if miraculously, he were to change and open his heart to me and allow his vulnerable side to be revealed. I never had the chance to know him deeply and truly. Finally, I have decided to do this heartfelt exercise below just to experience release and closure.  To my surprise, I was able to release him from my heart and healed my soul.  I am complete with this relationship.  I invite you to try answering these questions and experience it for yourself…

20 Questions for Looking into your Relationship – by Thich Nhat Hanh

  1. Are you in love? Yes, I think so.
  2. Are you still in love? Yes, I think so.
  3. Do you want to reconnect with the person who used to be the one you love? I am not really sure.
  4. Do you think that this person is happy? No, I don’t think so.
  5. Do you have the time for each other? I can make time for him, but I cannot answer for him.
  6. Have you been able to preserve your true presence for yourself and for the other person? Yes of course, but I don’t always feel that he is present for me.
  7. Are you capable of offering him or her freshness every day? Of course I am because routine bores me and I like exploring and trying new things.
  8. Do you know how to handle the suffering in yourself? Yes I do, but when it comes to Love, I am not so certain that I have mastered this area.
  9. Are you able to help handle the suffering in the other person? Yes, I believe I am able to do so…but the one I love has never showed his true suffering to me.
  10. Do you understand the roots of your own suffering? Yes I do.
  11. Are you able to understand the suffering in the other person? I have yet to experience any true suffering in him.
  12. Do you have the capacity to help the other person suffer less? Yes I do if he allows me to.
  13. Have you learned the way to calm down your painful feelings and emotions? Yes, I have truly.
  14. Do you have the time to listen to yourself and your deepest desire? Yes I do make the time to listen to myself, but as for my deepest desire related to love, I have not truly made the time.
  15. Do you have the time to listen to him or her and to help him or her suffer less? Yes I can make the time but I haven’t been given the opportunity to know what the suffering is.
  16. Are you capable of creating a feeling of joy for yourself? Yes absolutely, it’s my favorite thing to do.
  17. Are you capable of helping the other person to create a feeling of joy? Yes I am confident I can do that if he gives me a chance to do so. 
  18. Do you feel you have a clear spiritual path? Yes, wholeheartedly.
  19. Do you have the feeling of peace and contentment within yourself? Yes!
  20. Do you know how to nourish your love every day? Oh my Goddess, Yes!

How to Love is my very favorite book and I truly believe that every goddess and titan needs to have it in their personal library collection and read it often. Try to answer these questions for yourself and allow your heart to truly awaken and feel the love that is right for you. Remember to always be truthful with what is in your heart. If you are up for it, answer my question below after you have finished the 20 questions above.

  1. Can you see yourself being with this person for the rest of your life? No, because I do not believe that I can truly be my passionate, creative, wildly-mad-about-life goddess self! So you can imagine that this question obviously helped me to move on and release him from my life.

So there you have it. I am healed from this emotionally unfulfilling relationship. And please don’t even try to entertain the thought of who this titan could possibly be because that is for me to know and for you to always wonder about…. 🙂 xo

This love is real and long-lasting!

Music to Soothe the Soul

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I am sure you have figured it out by now how much I love music. Which is why most often, I like to have music playing in the background at work, at home, and in my car. I love to share anything that inspires creativity, self love, and passion for life. Playing beautiful music in my daily life is like feeding my soul with food. Music can help awaken and heal the goddess or titan within: inspiring your sex appeal, healing a wounded heart, and channeling your inner goddess, just to name a few.

I listen to all different types of music depending on my mood. During the warm months, I like to take evening walks in the park or along the water to release any stressful energy absorbed from that day. Then ending it with a relaxing aromatherapy goddess bath with candles is so heavenly. Click on the image above to listen to one of my favorite nightly mantras by Deva Premal, LOVE HER VOICE!

 

 

How I Keep My Inner Goddess Healthy This Summer

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Fruits and veggies from West End Farmers Market every Sunday start the week off right.

I often get asked if I am ever tired and, if not, what is the secret? Well, it’s really not that complicated. I live every day with gratitude and joy. In addition to that, my body is my temple and I keep it healthy most of the time with whole foods and exercise.  My life overall is beautiful, happy, healthy, and full of creative self-expression and love.

The majority of the time, I do not allow anyone to bog me down with unnecessary emotional drama and, on top of that, I rarely put anything unhealthy in my body that could potentially damage or destroy it. I remind myself daily not to take life for granted and to appreciate all the blessings that surround me. So keeping my inner goddess healthy is not just about regular exercise nor is it only about getting enough sleep and drinking lots of water – it also includes keeping a positive mindset and staying confident in my self-image and much more. Below are some photos of how I live each day to the fullest. If you are not living life in this way already, I hope this post will inspire you. Until next time…xoxo…tu-anh

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My daily zen starts in the bedroom, a place to relax and rejuvenate.

My own creation to keep the body clean and moisturized.

My own body luxury creations keep skin soft and moisturized.

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I like discovering pretty things along my daily goddess walks.

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This is so addicting. I cannot go one week without a good workout at Solidcore.

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It’s important to stay centered with a regular yoga and meditation practice.

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Even this little bee knows how to enjoy life.

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Feeling blessed and grateful to be healthy and alive.

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My organic homemade goddess salad with fresh-grown herbs I planted.

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Nurturing the flowers awakens my soul.

Alone time is important to recharge

Alone at last by the water to heal and recharge the soul.