40 Ways to feel more feminine.

You have read my previous post on Finding Strength in Softness featuring a modern day goddess who has awakened her feminine power through her journey with me the past several of years. And lately, I have received many requests from busy-successful modern day women asking me to share my tips and wisdom on how they can bring back their feminine energy so they can feel like a woman again. Here they are below…

1. Sleep Au Naturale (my first and foremost favorite feminine experience). If not nude, then, in lovely luxurious lingerie.
2. Let your hair down – as often as possible – soft, flowing, feminine.
3. Wear make-up to enhance your beautiful features, not hide them.
4. Wear feminine sexy undergarments – always. I love a touch of lace in mine.
5. Wear dresses – and…. devoid of panties or go braless when so inspired.
6. Wear high heels when you need a boost of confidence and sex appeal.
7. Flirt – in the mirror – smile, entice, use the eyes to beckon.
8. Giggle and laugh to yourself or at yourself.
9. Pink.  Yes, wear more pink, clothing, accessories, or lipstick.

10. Cook, clean, iron, sew, or do laundry. Be a domesticated goddess one day a week. It is very therapeutic, especially with classical or opera music playing while you do those activities.
11. Sparkle – Add sparkles to your eyes, on your skin, sprinkled them on your baked goods, or wear fashion with touches of sparkles.
12. Wear flowers in your hair – with or without reason.
13. When with a gentle-man, demonstrate your feminine grace by taking small steps – as though you were on the fashion runway. Yes, he is to open the door for you, walk closest to the street, pay your way (romantic or not).  Encourage his chivalry and masculinity. He will appreciate you for bringing out his inner titan.
14. Flirt with a stranger by extending a coy smile, gaze, a look.  No need to speak just be tempting and mysteriously approachable.
15. Wear silk to bed if you must wear something or a sheer cotton sheath that allows your body to breathe and feel free.

16. Dance – Dance daily with or without an audience. Be your own audience in the mirror.
17. Create a painting or a drawing from your feminine heart center.
18. Go shopping in person and allow your sense of touch to feel awakened. Caress the fabrics and materials with your hands.
19. Walk daily and leisurely in nature. Be present to your surroundings along the way. Pick flowers, watch the birds, chase the butterflies, or listen to the wind softly singing in your ears.
20. Spend time with masculine men (especially the ones with dogs as pets…not cats… Trust me on this!)
21. Slow down, relax, breathe…. carry yourself with grace and ease when you feel your masculine energy is taking over.
22. Speak softly choosing loving and positive words.  (Completely avoid profanity as it negates femininity).
23. Nurture your over-all Well Being.  Eat nutritionally, exercise, stretch, pamper yourself with therapeutic massages and hot sultry relaxing bubble baths as often as possible.
24. Be loving, be open, be approachable. Don’t judge anyone until you have a chance to get to know them personally. 
25. Grow a little garden. When your seeds bloom in full, so will you. 
26. Sing with your heart and soul as though the world would be healed by the very sound of your voice even when noone is listening.
27. Play dress up from your toes to your nose – Enjoy being a feminine girl’s girl. Dress up for your lover and have fun.
28. Be vulnerable – open your heart to receiving love and sharing love.

29. Gravitate to confident women who embrace femininity as their gift and their strength and who will reflect your beauty and celebrate your light.
30. Play with Children and Animals. Share your love and light, your touch, your resonance with them. They are pure and honest and you can be yourself with them. 
31. Treat your skin to luscious creams and natural erotic scents. I make my own since I cannot seem to find what I like. 
32. Create your feminine space by candle light and natural scented oils nightly.
33. High Tea – Pour Yourself a lovely cup of herbal tea and slowly savor each sip from a delicate china cup (with a little dark chocolate).
34. Be the definition of a true Feminine Woman – show compassion, kindness, forgiveness, sensitivity, gratitude and patience always, and yes even to those who have not been good to you.
35. Take a Soul Retreat by yourself for reflection, expansion and ascension of your brilliant Feminine Nature.
36. Practice yoga and meditation regularly.
37. Go for a healing Reiki session once a month. I have a Goddess whose energy I love and I see her when my brain power has been on overdrive.
38. Give thanks. I rarely go a day without sharing and expressing my Gratitude through writing in my journal.
39. Pray. Did you know that prayers can heal wounds if you believe it to be so? I finally have gotten over a heart-break through many nights and days of prayers and meditation. God does love us, even when we are not perfect.
40. Lastly, touch yourself daily. Give your body and soul the love it craves. How can anyone love you the way you want to be loved if you don’t know what that love really feels like?

Happy Women’s History month!
I hope you are already doing some of the things from my list above. If not, I invite you to try it for the rest of the month and keep me posted on what surprises you experienced. Let’s embrace femininity and sensuality as our power and our BRILLIANCE and share it with the world around us!
Allow The Goddess within you to be apparent everywhere you are and everything that you do.
With Love Always  * *

P.S. Thank you to Charles Martin, my photographer of many years for featuring my pink wrap design made of soft and luxurious cotton from India.

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Finding Strength in Softness, Part 2

I now have no problem enjoying the water in my birthday suit.

You have read the first part of Finding Strength in Softness. Here is part 2 so you can see where she is at in her goddess transformation and awakening journey. Enjoy reading! I am so proud of her!

I think that a lot of women, myself included, feel silly when they dare to think that they’re “sexy.” And the sad truth is that it’s likely because of the criticisms we feel from other women when we own our fierceness.

As an overweight youth, and very overweight young adult, my body is not something I’ve ever reveled in. It was never what gave me confidence or made me feel free. In fact, it was my prison, holding me back from opening up to people, feeling confident, or comfortable in my own skin.

Surprisingly, losing a significant amount weight did not result in those things either. I became perhaps even more self-conscious of my body than I had been previously. What I see now that I couldn’t see then is that self-worth was the key to bringing out that freedom, not the physical changes. And that was  something I had not yet fully developed until earlier this year.

And what naturally happens when you begin to stand fully in your self worth? You get tested.

I now love to flirt and have fun and especially when in front of the camera.

Recently, on a boat outing with my friend and unintentional style goddess and teacher of femininity, tu-anh love, I was presented with perhaps the smallest outfit I’ve ever put on my body and instructed to pose in it for a professional photographer. I’ve worn shirts with double the fabric of this supposedly “full-body” get-up. With two men on the boat with us, I was feeling especially conscious of my body and what it must look like in this teeny piece of fabric. Pre self-worth (and wine), I would have refused. But my will is not as persuasive as the creative life force known as tu-anh.

And I can’t lie… I felt sexy. Like, seriously sexy. And I wasn’t *hating* the encouragement from our men. In this space, with these people, in the sun and on the water (my happy place), I gave myself permission to not overthink it and simply just have fun. I’ll admit, it took all of those elements to get me to that mental space. But now that I’ve experienced that, it’s incredibly difficult to go back.

Fashionably fabulous and free she felt in this little piece of style.

What’s changed since then?

  • I’m not shy about being in a bathing suit — and no longer care that I don’t have a model body.
  • I don’t feel shy about owning my femininity.
  • I flirt, a lot actually. At the gym, the grocery store, walking in my neighborhood…
  • I post photos on Instagram just because I feel sexy and want to share and empower other women. No more shame in my game!
  • I don’t take myself so seriously because life’s too short.

More importantly, what I’ve discovered for myself is that sexiness isn’t about looks. It’s about freedom. Freedom from what anyone else thinks — and freedom from the thoughts that used to hold me back. And wow, the power that can be gained from that. Ladies, I’m daring you to embrace your femininity,  your sexuality and do it with no fear, no shame, and no guilt! I will be back for my finale!

tu-anh Love and I on one of our boat outings…