Finding Strength in Softness, Part 2

I now have no problem enjoying the water in my birthday suit.

You have read the first part of Finding Strength in Softness. Here is part 2 so you can see where she is at in her goddess transformation and awakening journey. Enjoy reading! I am so proud of her!

I think that a lot of women, myself included, feel silly when they dare to think that they’re “sexy.” And the sad truth is that it’s likely because of the criticisms we feel from other women when we own our fierceness.

As an overweight youth, and very overweight young adult, my body is not something I’ve ever reveled in. It was never what gave me confidence or made me feel free. In fact, it was my prison, holding me back from opening up to people, feeling confident, or comfortable in my own skin.

Surprisingly, losing a significant amount weight did not result in those things either. I became perhaps even more self-conscious of my body than I had been previously. What I see now that I couldn’t see then is that self-worth was the key to bringing out that freedom, not the physical changes. And that was  something I had not yet fully developed until earlier this year.

And what naturally happens when you begin to stand fully in your self worth? You get tested.

I now love to flirt and have fun and especially when in front of the camera.

Recently, on a boat outing with my friend and unintentional style goddess and teacher of femininity, tu-anh love, I was presented with perhaps the smallest outfit I’ve ever put on my body and instructed to pose in it for a professional photographer. I’ve worn shirts with double the fabric of this supposedly “full-body” get-up. With two men on the boat with us, I was feeling especially conscious of my body and what it must look like in this teeny piece of fabric. Pre self-worth (and wine), I would have refused. But my will is not as persuasive as the creative life force known as tu-anh.

And I can’t lie… I felt sexy. Like, seriously sexy. And I wasn’t *hating* the encouragement from our men. In this space, with these people, in the sun and on the water (my happy place), I gave myself permission to not overthink it and simply just have fun. I’ll admit, it took all of those elements to get me to that mental space. But now that I’ve experienced that, it’s incredibly difficult to go back.

Fashionably fabulous and free she felt in this little piece of style.

What’s changed since then?

  • I’m not shy about being in a bathing suit — and no longer care that I don’t have a model body.
  • I don’t feel shy about owning my femininity.
  • I flirt, a lot actually. At the gym, the grocery store, walking in my neighborhood…
  • I post photos on Instagram just because I feel sexy and want to share and empower other women. No more shame in my game!
  • I don’t take myself so seriously because life’s too short.

More importantly, what I’ve discovered for myself is that sexiness isn’t about looks. It’s about freedom. Freedom from what anyone else thinks — and freedom from the thoughts that used to hold me back. And wow, the power that can be gained from that. Ladies, I’m daring you to embrace your femininity,  your sexuality and do it with no fear, no shame, and no guilt! I will be back for my finale!

tu-anh Love and I on one of our boat outings…

Unblock Your Throat Chakra with Blue!

I love plants and flowers! This is my favorite season for gardening!

In the world of Buddhism, the color blue is the color of purity, tranquility, and of healing the soul. In the history of the United States of America, blue stands for perseverance, vigilance, and justice.  And in my world of love and light, blue represents heaven, truth, honor, freedom, intelligence, kindness, trust, loyalty, and the Mediterranean Sea!

Let’s honor and send gratitude prayers to those who died while serving our country.

On the spiritual level, blue is the color of the Throat Chakra, our communication center. When you can communicate your truth freely and clearly with ease, you will become your most authentic self, the self that you were meant to be. How often do you take the time to listen to your higher self and speak honestly and openly without fear? Do you often express what needs to be expressed and say what needs to be said? If your answers are no, then it means that your Throat Chakra may need some healing and balancing. That is simple and easy to do! Why not start with baby steps by wearing blue? It is my favorite color other than pink.

I love to recharge by the water in silence and under the clear blue sky.

Happy Memorial Weekend! I hope you are enjoying the start of Summer. The photos are compliments of Charles Martin Photography in my favorite blue dresses from our goddess collection at the sanctuary. I hope it inspires you to add more blue in your wardrobe if you are not already doing so. Until next time!

~tu-anh love

Animals, of course are one of the best form of therapy!

A Simple White Dress

The dress is from our latest Mykonos Collection made in Greece. The photo is one I shot at our retreat villa in Cabrera, Dominican Republic.

Despite what you might see, hear and read in the media, fashion does not have to be complicated, and you certainly should not have to spend time over-analyzing your wardrobe. You can keep your personal style beautiful yet simple, clean, and relaxed, with a few basic staples like a white dress.  Not only does a piece like this keep you looking fresh, but it can also bring a sense of serenity with its calming nature, easing tension, sadness, and stress.

I believe that the knowledge of color psychology is a divine and powerful gift that goddesses and titans can teach themselves because colors have their own unique function and meaning. The color white is excellent at clearing negative energy, liberating ourselves from emotional clutter, cleansing the mind of fears and doubts, while totally raising our vibrations and converting our energy into enlightenment.

I began incorporating white regularly into my wardrobe and surroundings over five years ago when I was developing a stronger and more powerful spiritual relationship with God and the divine light. Wearing white gave me meticulous perception abilities and soon became a part of my work and personal identity. A white dress is one of my favorite things to wear because I feel so fresh, feminine, beautiful, and protected by angels.

White is indeed a timeless and very powerful color which works silently, purely, innocently, and softly. The color white symbolizes quiet strength, peace, light, goodness, cleanliness, equality, completion, and simplicity. it is immaculate in essence, free, pristine, and open to welcoming new beginnings and positivity. In some cultures, white represents death but in a way which embraces the ending of a life and the resurrection of a new one. It is said that white is the color of perfection and is very effective in inspiring creativity. When I wear white, I can start on a project and keep going with a strong fire inside, and I won’t stop until I have completed it no matter how tired I am. White keeps me clean and full of truth and light.

Warm summer days are all about staying healthy, hydrated, and cool in the heat. This is why wearing white is great because it keeps our body temperature down, our mood light and feminine. Pair a white dress with a straw hat and easy slip-on sandals to keep you floating along in style.  I hope you like the photos and video of model Ryann Marie that I took on our Winter Goddess Awakened retreat that I led in the Dominican Republic this past February. Doesn’t she look so ready for some pleasure, sun, and sand?

Dress of Rayon from our Mykonos Collection. I took this while she was moving like a happy butterfly.