My Old Soul and Its Quest for Love

When your heart is open and balanced, your plants can feel it, too!

I am really not bothered by my high expectations in others, especially in my future forever “til death do us part” partner in crime and lover. You have to be a very self-aware and secure man in your own confident Titan skin to handle a modern day goddess like moi.  Since my divorce four years ago, I have been in a love affair with myself and having a lot of fun enjoying my own company and exploring a life full of freedom and creative self-expression.I have been told that I am too “picky,” and that my expectations are too high. But the truth is, I am an old soul and I have a big mission to accomplish in this lifetime that I cannot afford to lose time over distractions that do not serve my purpose. For years, my love life has been 2nd priority to my work of bringing beauty, sensuality and light to others.  Don’t get me wrong: if miraculously, I happen to stumble upon a handsome, gallant and honest titan who shares the same values, dreams and life’s aspirations as me, I will ultimately follow the guidance of my heart. But until then, if it takes forever, I will wait for that perfect true SOUL LOVE instead of settling for someone that is just “Good enough”.I have been wanting to write a post about old souls and true love for a very long time, but this article below was perfectly written for me and for many old souls out there who may be somewhat confused or thinking that something is wrong with them. I want to share this with you that a dear goddess friend sent me a few weeks ago. After reading it, I felt like Brianna Wiest, the author, was thinking of me when she wrote this. I will elaborate on this article with more detailed explanation later, but in the meantime, what do you think?

12 Reasons Why Old Souls Have Such A Hard Time Finding Love

1. They have a strong sense of identity. They know who they are, which means they also know – specifically – what they do and do not want in a partner, what works and what doesn’t. While this is fantastic in terms of being able to choose wisely, it ultimately diminishes their pool of prospects pretty significantly.

2. Left unchecked, their hyper-intuitiveness can wreck relationships. Often prone to overthinking because of how deeply sensitive they are, their capacity to worry and make assumptions can break relationships that don’t have a perfectly strong foundation.

3. Many are in the throes of twin flame relationshipsThey’re attached or are with people who are not their “forever” people, rather, intense connections they’re meant to learn, and rapidly expand, from.

4. They often have a greater purpose that must be attended to first – one that love would distract them from. They usually have to accomplish quite a bit on their own before they find love – this is because old souls love deeply, and completely. To be given love too soon would keep them from the other important things they are here to do.

Nini Love and I have a mission to bring joy to the world around us!

5. They will not settle for anything less than soulmate love.They require a lot more than just a surface-level, “average” relationship. They absolutely will not settle, and sometimes, that means biting the bullet and being alone for longer than what’s “average” as well.

6. While many people can bring them passion, few can bring compatibility. Because they feel so deeply and others find them so fascinating, it’s easy for them to find infatuation, but to be with someone who is truly their best friend, deepest confidant *and* lover is a challenge.

7. They’re less inclined to go out and meet people in modern ways. Even if they have nothing against online dating, it doesn’t always come naturally for them, nor does finding a random hookup at a bar or being set up blindly seem appealing.

8. They’re natural healers, and often attract people who need help, not love. And that attraction is reciprocated. There’s almost nothing that feels better to an old soul than being able to help someone who truly needs it. However, at some point in time, it’s crucial for them to realize that they have to choose a partner, not a student, or a charity case.

9. They dislike the “game.” Dating is inherently exhausting to an older-spirited person. Feigning disinterest for the sake of looking “cool” or knowing which faux pas other people find off-putting (how long after the first date do you text again?) isn’t instinctive to them, and can stress them out more than they ever find it “fun.”

10. Their standards are sky-high. They expect a lot from themselves, so likewise, they expect a lot from their partners. While this is a great thing, it’s another quality that has to be kept in check: it’s more important to be able to accept the qualities that aren’t deal-breakers than it is to just write a person off because they’re imperfect.

When I am alone is when my dreams are manifesting.

11. They have baggage.People who developed their inner selves quickly did so for a reason: they had to cope, they had to grow, or they had to learn from some challenging experiences that life set up for them. While this is a great thing on its own, unresolved issues can often re-manifest in close relationships.

12. They feel fear as intensely as they feel love.The degree to which they love something is proportionate to how much they fear losing it, or not being “good enough” for it. They don’t just love intensely, they feel everything else intensely, too, and sometimes, that gets in the way of the really good things in front of them.

I like my home sanctuary to be filled with pretty purple flowers for royalty and spitituality and white for keeping my space cleansed and pure.

Images to Cleanse Your Soul

I was probably a butterfly once in my past life.

My garden freshly picked.

I love seeing the ocean at sunset and hearing the waves speak to the wind.

Being with flowers is the most therapeutic experience!

I burn white candles almost nightly for release of any darkness I have attracted.

 

Sweet dreams, my love!

Fashion, Flowers, and Sensuality

I have shared with you in a recent blog post that besides fresh-smelling herbs, flowers are one part of nature that I cannot live without. Wherever I am, fresh flowers are always present. Flowers add immediate beauty to your surroundings, and can uplift your spirit and brighten your days even through times of stress and sadness.  My home and work space is always filled with flowers, no matter the season or weather. I get so inspired by their dreamy petals, their freshness, their vibrant colors, and their heavenly fragrances.  In fact, I don’t remember ever coming up with magical ideas and feeling so free and creative without flowers being very close by….When I am on holiday, I also make sure that flowers are part of the decor and ambiance of wherever I am lodging. I amorously call flowers my best friends because of the good Feng Shui and positive energy they bring into my life, as well as numerous other healing and health benefits. And most importantly, flowers awaken the sensuality within me.

Being with flowers is not only a spiritual experience for me, but they also remind me to stay in touch with my inner goddess and honor my femininity. I hope you like the little film clip below, featuring the luminous Style Goddess Julianne in one of our flowered ponchos. I filmed it on my goddess retreat in Mexico earlier this year.  If this doesn’t make you want to stop and smell the flowers, I don’t know what will! 🙂 Flowers teach us how to fall in love with pleasure all over again and to savor the special little things. When you introduce flowers into your surroundings, you cannot help but feel like you are living inside a prettier, happier, more creative, and more romantic life. For those of you who are on the more reserve side, flowers can soften your personality and make you feel more charming and flirtatious, too!

Well my lovies, how are you presently incorporating flowers  into your life?  And what are your favorite types to keep around the house? Mine are peonies, orchids, roses, and lillies 🙂

Now time for some pampering. Go out and buy yourself some flowers and let’s celebrate you!

Peonies are my favorite flowers. They look so feminine, powerful and full of life!