8 Reasons Why You Are Not Where You Want to Be.

My best friend and owner of Shiny Carpet Cleaning is the perfect example of Confidence, Discipline and Action.

Ever wonder why your life is not where you want it to be? Are you frustrated because you have worked so hard and yet, there is nothing to show for it? Well, it all begins with you.

In my opinion, having passion and knowing what you want for your life play crucial roles in helping you to get there. But perhaps there are some things that you are currently lacking that may be preventing you from reaching your fullest potential and living your best life. I am speaking from my very own personal experience. I have had to learn some very hard lessons along the way.

Below are just some of my thoughts on why you still are not where you want to be in your life:

1. Lack of Planning

You can see your happy and successful future so clearly, but what is missing is a plan on how you will get there. What are you waiting for? Start planning! No one will do that for you. Let’s get to work and implement those plans!

2. Lack of Self Confidence

How can anyone believe in you if you don’t believe in yourself? Your lack of self confidence will prevent you from reaching your goals because fear takes over and you are entertaining it. Don’t allow fear to get in the way.

3. Lack of Focus

Focusing on the wrong things can be unproductive and a time waster. Do you know the top 3 priorities in your life? Write those down and keep them somewhere that you see regularly to keep you on track. If anything or anyone get in the way of those priorities, drop them.

4. Lack of Discipline

We are not born disciplined. To me this is a learned behavior. When we lack discipline, we lack initiative and we lack inner strength. Being a disciplined person takes effort, but it also requires you to train your mind and tell yourself that you are a disciplined person.

5. Lack of guidance and support

You are who you surround yourself with. Who are the people closest to you? Who are the top 5 people you spend most of your time with? Are they on the same life path and purpose as you? I have many friends after 20 years, still struggling in the same life’s challenges. It’s because they surround themselves with people who do not share their path of success and happiness. You are a product of your environment and surroundings. Surround yourself with people who will guide and support your path to reaching your fullest potential and who challenges you to live your best life!

6. Lack of Accountability

When you take responsibility for your life, it puts you at choice. Choose to be in the driver seat instead of just going with the flow or follow along. If you don’t hold yourself accountable, then who will? Drive your life and get to the destination of your dreams! ” It is not what we only do, but also what we do not do, for which we are accountable.” ~John Baptiste Moliere

7. Lack of Faith

How can your dreams come true if you don’t believe that they will? Faith helps you to overcome obstacles that get in the way of success. When we have faith, everything and anything are possible.

8. Lack of Action

This to me is the most important above all else. Without action, there is no result and your dreams cannot come into reality. Talk is cheap without action to follow. Now is the time to start. Stop talking about what you will do and start doing it.

What is Finding Strength in Softness?

 

Being a strong woman does not mean losing your femininity. ~tu-anh

Happy New Moon in Gemini, the sign of the twins!

Today’s post is from a very dear goddess who has been a part of my tu-anh love “Awakened and Alive” community for quite sometime. This beautiful expression of herself, her life transformation, and her vulnerability exposed touched me and I thought you would be inspired by it as well. And for those ladies that are constantly sharing with me how they keep attracting weak men, let’s begin by letting your inner feminine come out to play and have some fashionably fearless forties fun!

This is before goddess transformation.

When I first stepped into Tu-anh boutique in 2015, my outer self seemed to stick out like a sore thumb… but my inner self was HOME. What was this magical dimension I had entered into? At the time, my inner masculinity tended to steal the show. What was missing in my life was a full expression of my femininity. Since that time, I’ve explored a life full of ruffles, flowers, spirituality and sensuality… with the unexpected benefits of deeper, more authentic connections and a much more powerful sense of self.

Smiling flirtatiously while I take her photo at our “Awakened” goddess retreat in Dominican Republic in 2017.

What I have learned:

  • A soft and feminine look does not make you appear weak to others – it makes you appear approachable. A way of being that welcomes others into your world creates not only more authentic connections but a much stronger position.
  • Femininity isn’t just a “look”… it’s a way of being that brings out your most authentic, vulnerable self. I am now okay with people helping me with a project or paying for dinner. I also now enjoy expressing how I really feel. While that used to feel like a weakness to me, I’ve experienced more freedom and power than I ever could have imagined by being more open and honest with the people in my life.
  • In dating, if you want to attract a strong, confident and self-assured alpha-male, you have to be willing to show your femininity and vulnerability. I had been searching for the Yin to my Yang – but was giving off Yin vibes myself. The end result? Attracting weaker men who were seeking someone strong to support or help them.
  • Never wait for someone to buy you flowers! Each week, I buy four bouquets of flowers for my home, and have found it to be one of the quickest ways to bring love and light into my world. Similar expressions of self-love, like getting a massage, journaling or meditating, are regular habits that have attracted even more love and abundance into my life.
  • Being ok with vulnerability has opened me up to experiences I would never have allowed myself to be in before, as I would not have wanted anyone to see me fail. From Salsa dancing to karaoke to riding a bike (that’s a long story), I have conquered fears and experienced new levels of joy that my former need to be in control was blocking from my life.
  • The biggest thing I have learned is that I really like being feminine. In 2015, 90% of the items in my closet consisted of black, beige or stripes. I was projecting a false sense of power and control that was surely blocking people and experiences from my life. These days, you’d be hard-pressed to find many tops or dresses in my wardrobe that aren’t white, pink and/or off-shoulder.

This is she recently after a Polished by tu-anh make-up touch-up before an event.

The best thing about tapping into my feminine power is that it has allowed me to express my more masculine side in business without feeling drained. There is now balance between both sides of my personality.  This new way of being has opened me up to a life that I could not have imagined just three years ago… a life of creativity, passion and self-discovery… a life fully-expressed.

Well, I hope you like what you have read. Stay tuned for the reveal of who this amazing and beautiful soul is on her next phase of feminine power awakened and transformed. 🙂 Until next time…~tu-anh

This is she recently at We Will Survive Cancer Charity event with me.

Her closet is no longer of just black. It is more balanced and stylish now.