What is Finding Strength in Softness?

 

Being a strong woman does not mean losing your femininity. ~tu-anh

Happy New Moon in Gemini, the sign of the twins!

Today’s post is from a very dear goddess who has been a part of my tu-anh love “Awakened and Alive” community for quite sometime. This beautiful expression of herself, her life transformation, and her vulnerability exposed touched me and I thought you would be inspired by it as well. And for those ladies that are constantly sharing with me how they keep attracting weak men, let’s begin by letting your inner feminine come out to play and have some fashionably fearless forties fun!

This is before goddess transformation.

When I first stepped into Tu-anh boutique in 2015, my outer self seemed to stick out like a sore thumb… but my inner self was HOME. What was this magical dimension I had entered into? At the time, my inner masculinity tended to steal the show. What was missing in my life was a full expression of my femininity. Since that time, I’ve explored a life full of ruffles, flowers, spirituality and sensuality… with the unexpected benefits of deeper, more authentic connections and a much more powerful sense of self.

Smiling flirtatiously while I take her photo at our “Awakened” goddess retreat in Dominican Republic in 2017.

What I have learned:

  • A soft and feminine look does not make you appear weak to others – it makes you appear approachable. A way of being that welcomes others into your world creates not only more authentic connections but a much stronger position.
  • Femininity isn’t just a “look”… it’s a way of being that brings out your most authentic, vulnerable self. I am now okay with people helping me with a project or paying for dinner. I also now enjoy expressing how I really feel. While that used to feel like a weakness to me, I’ve experienced more freedom and power than I ever could have imagined by being more open and honest with the people in my life.
  • In dating, if you want to attract a strong, confident and self-assured alpha-male, you have to be willing to show your femininity and vulnerability. I had been searching for the Yin to my Yang – but was giving off Yin vibes myself. The end result? Attracting weaker men who were seeking someone strong to support or help them.
  • Never wait for someone to buy you flowers! Each week, I buy four bouquets of flowers for my home, and have found it to be one of the quickest ways to bring love and light into my world. Similar expressions of self-love, like getting a massage, journaling or meditating, are regular habits that have attracted even more love and abundance into my life.
  • Being ok with vulnerability has opened me up to experiences I would never have allowed myself to be in before, as I would not have wanted anyone to see me fail. From Salsa dancing to karaoke to riding a bike (that’s a long story), I have conquered fears and experienced new levels of joy that my former need to be in control was blocking from my life.
  • The biggest thing I have learned is that I really like being feminine. In 2015, 90% of the items in my closet consisted of black, beige or stripes. I was projecting a false sense of power and control that was surely blocking people and experiences from my life. These days, you’d be hard-pressed to find many tops or dresses in my wardrobe that aren’t white, pink and/or off-shoulder.

This is she recently after a Polished by tu-anh make-up touch-up before an event.

The best thing about tapping into my feminine power is that it has allowed me to express my more masculine side in business without feeling drained. There is now balance between both sides of my personality.  This new way of being has opened me up to a life that I could not have imagined just three years ago… a life of creativity, passion and self-discovery… a life fully-expressed.

Well, I hope you like what you have read. Stay tuned for the reveal of who this amazing and beautiful soul is on her next phase of feminine power awakened and transformed. 🙂 Until next time…~tu-anh

This is she recently at We Will Survive Cancer Charity event with me.

Her closet is no longer of just black. It is more balanced and stylish now.

A Simple White Dress

The dress is from our latest Mykonos Collection made in Greece. The photo is one I shot at our retreat villa in Cabrera, Dominican Republic.

Despite what you might see, hear and read in the media, fashion does not have to be complicated, and you certainly should not have to spend time over-analyzing your wardrobe. You can keep your personal style beautiful yet simple, clean, and relaxed, with a few basic staples like a white dress.  Not only does a piece like this keep you looking fresh, but it can also bring a sense of serenity with its calming nature, easing tension, sadness, and stress.

I believe that the knowledge of color psychology is a divine and powerful gift that goddesses and titans can teach themselves because colors have their own unique function and meaning. The color white is excellent at clearing negative energy, liberating ourselves from emotional clutter, cleansing the mind of fears and doubts, while totally raising our vibrations and converting our energy into enlightenment.

I began incorporating white regularly into my wardrobe and surroundings over five years ago when I was developing a stronger and more powerful spiritual relationship with God and the divine light. Wearing white gave me meticulous perception abilities and soon became a part of my work and personal identity. A white dress is one of my favorite things to wear because I feel so fresh, feminine, beautiful, and protected by angels.

White is indeed a timeless and very powerful color which works silently, purely, innocently, and softly. The color white symbolizes quiet strength, peace, light, goodness, cleanliness, equality, completion, and simplicity. it is immaculate in essence, free, pristine, and open to welcoming new beginnings and positivity. In some cultures, white represents death but in a way which embraces the ending of a life and the resurrection of a new one. It is said that white is the color of perfection and is very effective in inspiring creativity. When I wear white, I can start on a project and keep going with a strong fire inside, and I won’t stop until I have completed it no matter how tired I am. White keeps me clean and full of truth and light.

Warm summer days are all about staying healthy, hydrated, and cool in the heat. This is why wearing white is great because it keeps our body temperature down, our mood light and feminine. Pair a white dress with a straw hat and easy slip-on sandals to keep you floating along in style.  I hope you like the photos and video of model Ryann Marie that I took on our Winter Goddess Awakened retreat that I led in the Dominican Republic this past February. Doesn’t she look so ready for some pleasure, sun, and sand?

Dress of Rayon from our Mykonos Collection. I took this while she was moving like a happy butterfly.

For the Love of a Red Dress

Nothing better than being in a red dress surrounded by all things masculine!

With the hot summer coming soon, I am looking forward to the warm sexy days where I can just toss on a beautiful dress and my hand-made Grecian sandals, and out the door I go.  I have always loved the ease and feminine appeal of dresses, and red is one of my favorite hues.  There’s something about a woman in a red dress that is so powerful and alluring, don’t you think?

Take a look at the mini film below that is part of my new tu-anh Boutique YouTube video series. In it, I’ve styled model Alex Marie in a long, sexy cotton Greek Goddess dress, which is perfect for hot summer nights out, a Sunday brunch in Alexandria, or a sexy date at home with yourself on the couch with champagne and candlelight.  Or, if you are having a day where you don’t feel your best self, I suggest you put on something with the color red. Doing so boosts your confidence, your power, and your passionate side, and helps you awaken your inner feminine divine.  Doesn’t Alex Marie look like she is ready to take on the world in my video below?

How are you styling your wardrobe for the summer? Is there red in your closet? I always love the fashion inspiration my fans provide, as well as the inspiration from the places I travel to!

The red section is a staple at our sanctuary.