What is Finding Strength in Softness?

 

Being a strong woman does not mean losing your femininity. ~tu-anh

Happy New Moon in Gemini, the sign of the twins!

Today’s post is from a very dear goddess who has been a part of my tu-anh love “Awakened and Alive” community for quite sometime. This beautiful expression of herself, her life transformation, and her vulnerability exposed touched me and I thought you would be inspired by it as well. And for those ladies that are constantly sharing with me how they keep attracting weak men, let’s begin by letting your inner feminine come out to play and have some fashionably fearless forties fun!

This is before goddess transformation.

When I first stepped into Tu-anh boutique in 2015, my outer self seemed to stick out like a sore thumb… but my inner self was HOME. What was this magical dimension I had entered into? At the time, my inner masculinity tended to steal the show. What was missing in my life was a full expression of my femininity. Since that time, I’ve explored a life full of ruffles, flowers, spirituality and sensuality… with the unexpected benefits of deeper, more authentic connections and a much more powerful sense of self.

Smiling flirtatiously while I take her photo at our “Awakened” goddess retreat in Dominican Republic in 2017.

What I have learned:

  • A soft and feminine look does not make you appear weak to others – it makes you appear approachable. A way of being that welcomes others into your world creates not only more authentic connections but a much stronger position.
  • Femininity isn’t just a “look”… it’s a way of being that brings out your most authentic, vulnerable self. I am now okay with people helping me with a project or paying for dinner. I also now enjoy expressing how I really feel. While that used to feel like a weakness to me, I’ve experienced more freedom and power than I ever could have imagined by being more open and honest with the people in my life.
  • In dating, if you want to attract a strong, confident and self-assured alpha-male, you have to be willing to show your femininity and vulnerability. I had been searching for the Yin to my Yang – but was giving off Yin vibes myself. The end result? Attracting weaker men who were seeking someone strong to support or help them.
  • Never wait for someone to buy you flowers! Each week, I buy four bouquets of flowers for my home, and have found it to be one of the quickest ways to bring love and light into my world. Similar expressions of self-love, like getting a massage, journaling or meditating, are regular habits that have attracted even more love and abundance into my life.
  • Being ok with vulnerability has opened me up to experiences I would never have allowed myself to be in before, as I would not have wanted anyone to see me fail. From Salsa dancing to karaoke to riding a bike (that’s a long story), I have conquered fears and experienced new levels of joy that my former need to be in control was blocking from my life.
  • The biggest thing I have learned is that I really like being feminine. In 2015, 90% of the items in my closet consisted of black, beige or stripes. I was projecting a false sense of power and control that was surely blocking people and experiences from my life. These days, you’d be hard-pressed to find many tops or dresses in my wardrobe that aren’t white, pink and/or off-shoulder.

This is she recently after a Polished by tu-anh make-up touch-up before an event.

The best thing about tapping into my feminine power is that it has allowed me to express my more masculine side in business without feeling drained. There is now balance between both sides of my personality.  This new way of being has opened me up to a life that I could not have imagined just three years ago… a life of creativity, passion and self-discovery… a life fully-expressed.

Well, I hope you like what you have read. Stay tuned for the reveal of who this amazing and beautiful soul is on her next phase of feminine power awakened and transformed. 🙂 Until next time…~tu-anh

This is she recently at We Will Survive Cancer Charity event with me.

Her closet is no longer of just black. It is more balanced and stylish now.

Happy New Moon and International Goddess Day!

Happy New Moon in Taurus and International Goddess Day! For those of you from all over the world who are reading my post, please send love, healing, and light to all those wonderful and amazing goddesses in your life. Celebrate their strength, their spirits, and their hearts! Join me in welcoming the arrival of Spring, my favorite season. This is the season of rebirth and transformation. Let us all sing as if no one is listening and dance as if the whole world is watching us. I am so excited to embark on a new chapter of my life starting today, the chapter that was written for me many lifetimes ago. And tomorrow, I will not look back at today nor yesterday. My life moving forward will be a life full of hope, a life of truth, a life of charity and devotion, and most importantly, a life filled with only and simply love! I will face the world with boldness, without fear, without darkness and sadness, and with only creative self-expression that feeds my soul purpose and turn my dreams into reality. I am grateful to God, the Angels, and the Universe for being my teachers, my spirit guides, and my inner life force during this journey into enlightenment and becoming an awakened being. I feel very blessed.
~tu-anh love

P.S. Thank you to my long time friend and photographer Charles Martin for the photos as my Birthday gift. 🙂 The vintage dress is from Goodwill of Greater Washington and the sparkling jewels are my from Goddess collection I designed and created.

I love being by the water to recharge and rejuvenate!

How to Attract a Taurus Goddess.

Water, solitude, sunshine, and something pink and soft=my recipe for peace and happiness.

On behalf of my Taurus sister goddesses, I am dedicating this post to all the titans out there who have not had much luck in attracting and keeping a Taurus goddess in a romantic relationship. The good news is that there is hope. We just have to share with you a few simple secrets that you can try out. Honestly, we are what you see is what you get goddesses. Just keep reading this post and you will know how. Soon you will be the titan that your Taurus goddess adores and you can thank me with flowers and chocolates later. (smiles)

To understand a Taurus goddess, you must first know that she is a fixed earth sign, and she is ruled by Venus, the goddess of love, beauty, and sensuality. Born during the most beautiful season of the year, between April 20 and May 20, she is earthy, loving, sensual, passionate, grounded, loyal, nurturing, dependable, practical, persistent, independent, creative, soulful, and deeply a romantic at heart.  She can also be very determined and stubborn if she truly believes in something. Once her mind is made up, it is often difficult to convince her to change it, especially when she has decided she is done with you. There is no turning back and it will take a whole lot of convincing to win her back or earn her trust again.

The Taurus goddess loves all things beautiful and pleasing to the senses. That includes people and surroundings as well. She is the most sensual sign in the zodiac. So anything that brings beauty, love, comfort, luxury, and of quality to her life will catch her attention. Even though she is modern and forward thinking, she still appreciates old fashion courtship and chivalry from the titans in her life. So little thoughtful actions such as opening the door for her, walking her to the car, picking her up for a date and then calling or sending her a note after to say thank you and to make sure she is home safely mean more to her than any expensive gifts that you can ever buy.

Fashion stylist and DJ Heather Femia modeling our latest Mykonos Collection of dresses…A true Taurus she is!

The Taurus goddess is ultra-feminine and is quite popular with the opposite sex. But because she exudes so much love and light that even children and animals are also drawn to her powerful essence. If you are interested in a Taurus goddess, then you must stand out from the rest of the men that are after her. Read on below and find out how. This is just my personal opinion only, but I know it will help you attract and keep any goddess in your life forever and not just Tauruses! (Smiles)

Masculinity: No matter what….never give your alpha-maleness and masculine-titan-power away! But make sure that when in private, you are capable of being open, sensitive and connect with her on an emotional level. And when you are polished and intelligent and know handy tasks to assist her, then she will be yours!

Chivalry: One of the things I am most bothered by is when a titan does not have polished manners. I personally have experienced this as well as seen it. The goddess must always walk on the protected side of the street, does not matter left or right in my opinion. When she offers to pay or to drive, you should not let her do so. She will automatically put you in the friend zone. Why? Because you will fall into the “too nice” “too sweet” and then she would never feel safe with you. A Taurus goddess wants a titan who respects and adores her, but who can lead the way and know how to take charge! Most importantly, never use profanity or unpleasant language around her. You just don’t do that ever!

Honesty: Game playing and secrets are not appealing to a Taurus goddess. Be open, be honest, and be real. She loves it!

Confidence: You can be confident and fearless without being arrogant. Speaking your mind when something bothers you is quite attractive. That also includes knowing what you want and saying no without guilt is another sexy manly trait. Taking action to achieve a goal is even hotter!

Generosity: No goddess wants to be with a cheap and calculating titan. And no matter how many times she offers, do not ever let her pay for you in public! You will for sure end up in the forever friend zone. (Ex. if you are out with a goddess and her girlfriends, you must take care of all of them, not just her!) This may be a cultural thing and many of you may disagree with me. But the way I was brought up is that the titan always pays. It does not matter if he is a family member, friend, or business associate young or old, he pays when out in public with a female. It makes him look good, but it also shows that he respects the female he is with.

Kindness: It is not about how kind you are to the goddess you are with, but also how you treat those around you, and that includes your family, your friends, your co-workers, children, plants and animals!

Intelligence: Need I say more? You have to be intelligent to keep a Taurus goddess interested in you!

Security: A Taurus goddess is very capable of taking care of herself financially, but she likes to be pampered and protected. Knowing that you are good with finances and that you are successful in your work makes her feel comforted knowing that the future with you will be provided for should she decide to be a sexy stay at home domesticated goddess keeping everything at home tidy, comfortable, and beautiful for you and cooking you 5-star gourmet delicious meals!

Conversations: A titan who can engage in conversations of all sorts and if he is a good listener, WOW!

Model-Yogi-Healer-Taurus goddess soulmate, Christina will be back from Mykonos this Fall leading yoga and meditation sessions at my sanctuary.

Grooming: It is very attractive when a titan takes care of his appearance and health. But remember, we would not want you to spend more time in front of the mirror than we do. Keep your style powerful, polished, refined, yet relaxed depending on the occasion. But, please keep those cartoony-colorful ties, underpants, and happy socks out of her sight. They are not sexy and will turn her off forever!

Family: The Taurus goddess loves her family and is attached to them. So you must love her family as well as be close to yours.

Privacy: Taurus goddesses love our quiet intimate quality time with you. We don’t need to share you with the world. We like to know that you are ours and ours only. Others do not need to know the intimate details of our relationship.

Romance: This is almost as important as chivalry. Little acts of kindness, soft unexpected sensual touches, and simple surprises like hand-picked flowers or a voicemail or text in the middle of the day to say you miss her or thinking of her are very romantic and will make her heart melt with pleasure.

Bedroom Passion: This is last, but probably one of the most important if you want a Taurus goddess to be a forever loyal lover to you. She is sensual and loves sexual pleasure. She likes it slow, passionate, tender and intimate, yet rough and intense. She likes it real and natural. Using toys and funny looking objects will not turn her on. You must seduce, entice, and tease her with your natural masculine energy. Take the time to feel every minute of what you are experiencing with her, be present and in the moment. Be spontaneous, adventurous, go with the flow, let your heart rule when making love to her. A Taurus goddess loves a titan who knows how to take charge in the bedroom as well as outside of the bedroom. What is even sexier is when you need guidance on how to bring her pleasure, and you are not afraid to ask her to show you!

We love white and cotton sheets! Comfort luxury for sure!

Keep the bedroom simple and clean. White and cotton are sexy!

If you are currently dating or married to a Taurus goddess, consider yourself very blessed!

There is one more thing that you should know. It takes a lot to get a Taurus goddess upset because she is ruled by Venus and is naturally loving and prefers peace over war by nature. She is patient and can tolerate a lot. But if you disrespect her, we will be worse than fire, windstorm and thunder all together. She will leave you forever and never look back. She is a female bull! 🙂