Love House Rules

 

Most men are not even comfortable enough in their own masculinity to wear jewelry. This one believes you need to be balanced in both your male and female energy to be powerful.

It’s not very often that a very manly, confident, and fearless titan comes into my life who inspires my creativity and awakens my soul. And he did exactly those things! My life is no longer the same since my short exchanges with him. Even though our time together was brief because I was leaving for my annual Goddess retreat in the Mediterranean, but every moment I spent with him was well worth it! He challenged me in mind, body, and spirit, especially from a very male perspective. Each time together with him was full of learning and discovering magical and unexpected life surprises. It was fun, creative, spiritually uplifting and thought-provoking. I felt safe, respected, understood, and protected when he was with me. We read each other’s minds on so many levels. He was a fast learner and could keep up with me and adapt to unexpected changes so effortlessly. Perhaps it was because of his athletic background or perhaps God created a real man in him to set an example for all the other men to follow? I don’t know and I will not guess, but all I can say is that it felt like I was with my masculine self.

He taught me so many life lessons without even knowing it. I do believe that he was an angel sent from heaven to help heal me of my emotional wounds, know my self-worth, and to never again settle for any man who is less than my emotional, physical, intellectual, and spiritual equal. He forced me to go within and look at all of the men in my life through a sharper lens, from family members to friends and lovers. What I discovered is that most of the men in my life currently are simply not strong enough for me emotionally and perhaps even physically, with one or two exceptions. 🙂

Looking back, I would often lower my vibration, tone down my passionate nature and creative self-expression just to match the men I was with. But no more, I assure you. I am so clear of the man I want to be with in the future, and the men I want to surround myself with in the now. No more conservative and uptight ones who on the outside appear strong, yet are so emotionally weak and insecure on the inside that I am left feeling unsafe and unprotected when I am with them. Who is to blame for that but my very own self? I can’t believe it took me 46 years to figure this out (late bloomer, I guess…)

Tonight as I was doing my domesticated goddess arts at home, he came into my mind and it inspired me to polish and refine my tu-anh Love House Rules below for all those who are fortunate enough to be invited over. Please feel free to contribute to my list. I hope wherever this special manliness of a soul and God’s gift to women is that he knows I appreciate and respect him deeply. I am forever grateful to him for transforming my life and awakening my divine feminine with his existence. I am sending love and light his way. I will pray for him to always be his best and most powerful self as our world needs his masculine strength! Stay tuned for more inspirational posts to come inspired by my handsome manly Greek Titan teacher and healer!

P.S. Some of you may be thinking perhaps he and I were intimately or romantically involved. The answer is no. He was my titan muse, my angel protector, my inner strength, and my soul teacher! Perhaps one day…time will tell (smiles)

JUST “LOVE”

Hope your Summer has been wonderful and active. Just wanted to share the note below I found from a dear client that I had worked with many many years ago, especially now that I am tu-anh Love and have left my corporate advisory work completely since my birthday this past May. Currently, I am focusing 100% on my passion for designing and creating beautiful things and sharing my love of life with others to enlighten them. Let’s just say that I am happy to be back home to my divine feminine energy and who I truly was meant to be….just simply “LOVE”

Just “LOVE”

(From the Crazy Client, he called himself)

So yes, I do wonder of this person whom came into my life.

She helps so many and changed my whole life.

Changed?

I was on that track a long while ago and somehow lost the lane I was in.

The lane of true happiness and caring and being cared for and finding love and loving.

I looked so long in all the wrong places.

Forcing what wasn’t, wishing it should be

Then that day I found, “Love”

Did God truly manifest love as a person?

I see you daily, and I call you Love

Not just for me, but for my children, and the world, and so many special others.

Wow.

So God created “Love,” and put this in a person.

He named you, “Love”.

I’m so happy I found you.

There is nothing more rewarding than seeing your flowers bloom so radiantly!

What is Finding Strength in Softness?

 

Being a strong woman does not mean losing your femininity. ~tu-anh

Happy New Moon in Gemini, the sign of the twins!

Today’s post is from a very dear goddess who has been a part of my tu-anh love “Awakened and Alive” community for quite sometime. This beautiful expression of herself, her life transformation, and her vulnerability exposed touched me and I thought you would be inspired by it as well. And for those ladies that are constantly sharing with me how they keep attracting weak men, let’s begin by letting your inner feminine come out to play and have some fashionably fearless forties fun!

This is before goddess transformation.

When I first stepped into Tu-anh boutique in 2015, my outer self seemed to stick out like a sore thumb… but my inner self was HOME. What was this magical dimension I had entered into? At the time, my inner masculinity tended to steal the show. What was missing in my life was a full expression of my femininity. Since that time, I’ve explored a life full of ruffles, flowers, spirituality and sensuality… with the unexpected benefits of deeper, more authentic connections and a much more powerful sense of self.

Smiling flirtatiously while I take her photo at our “Awakened” goddess retreat in Dominican Republic in 2017.

What I have learned:

  • A soft and feminine look does not make you appear weak to others – it makes you appear approachable. A way of being that welcomes others into your world creates not only more authentic connections but a much stronger position.
  • Femininity isn’t just a “look”… it’s a way of being that brings out your most authentic, vulnerable self. I am now okay with people helping me with a project or paying for dinner. I also now enjoy expressing how I really feel. While that used to feel like a weakness to me, I’ve experienced more freedom and power than I ever could have imagined by being more open and honest with the people in my life.
  • In dating, if you want to attract a strong, confident and self-assured alpha-male, you have to be willing to show your femininity and vulnerability. I had been searching for the Yin to my Yang – but was giving off Yin vibes myself. The end result? Attracting weaker men who were seeking someone strong to support or help them.
  • Never wait for someone to buy you flowers! Each week, I buy four bouquets of flowers for my home, and have found it to be one of the quickest ways to bring love and light into my world. Similar expressions of self-love, like getting a massage, journaling or meditating, are regular habits that have attracted even more love and abundance into my life.
  • Being ok with vulnerability has opened me up to experiences I would never have allowed myself to be in before, as I would not have wanted anyone to see me fail. From Salsa dancing to karaoke to riding a bike (that’s a long story), I have conquered fears and experienced new levels of joy that my former need to be in control was blocking from my life.
  • The biggest thing I have learned is that I really like being feminine. In 2015, 90% of the items in my closet consisted of black, beige or stripes. I was projecting a false sense of power and control that was surely blocking people and experiences from my life. These days, you’d be hard-pressed to find many tops or dresses in my wardrobe that aren’t white, pink and/or off-shoulder.

This is she recently after a Polished by tu-anh make-up touch-up before an event.

The best thing about tapping into my feminine power is that it has allowed me to express my more masculine side in business without feeling drained. There is now balance between both sides of my personality.  This new way of being has opened me up to a life that I could not have imagined just three years ago… a life of creativity, passion and self-discovery… a life fully-expressed.

Well, I hope you like what you have read. Stay tuned for the reveal of who this amazing and beautiful soul is on her next phase of feminine power awakened and transformed. 🙂 Until next time…~tu-anh

This is she recently at We Will Survive Cancer Charity event with me.

Her closet is no longer of just black. It is more balanced and stylish now.