Finding Strength in Softness, Part 2

I now have no problem enjoying the water in my birthday suit.

You have read the first part of Finding Strength in Softness. Here is part 2 so you can see where she is at in her goddess transformation and awakening journey. Enjoy reading! I am so proud of her!

I think that a lot of women, myself included, feel silly when they dare to think that they’re “sexy.” And the sad truth is that it’s likely because of the criticisms we feel from other women when we own our fierceness.

As an overweight youth, and very overweight young adult, my body is not something I’ve ever reveled in. It was never what gave me confidence or made me feel free. In fact, it was my prison, holding me back from opening up to people, feeling confident, or comfortable in my own skin.

Surprisingly, losing a significant amount weight did not result in those things either. I became perhaps even more self-conscious of my body than I had been previously. What I see now that I couldn’t see then is that self-worth was the key to bringing out that freedom, not the physical changes. And that was  something I had not yet fully developed until earlier this year.

And what naturally happens when you begin to stand fully in your self worth? You get tested.

I now love to flirt and have fun and especially when in front of the camera.

Recently, on a boat outing with my friend and unintentional style goddess and teacher of femininity, tu-anh love, I was presented with perhaps the smallest outfit I’ve ever put on my body and instructed to pose in it for a professional photographer. I’ve worn shirts with double the fabric of this supposedly “full-body” get-up. With two men on the boat with us, I was feeling especially conscious of my body and what it must look like in this teeny piece of fabric. Pre self-worth (and wine), I would have refused. But my will is not as persuasive as the creative life force known as tu-anh.

And I can’t lie… I felt sexy. Like, seriously sexy. And I wasn’t *hating* the encouragement from our men. In this space, with these people, in the sun and on the water (my happy place), I gave myself permission to not overthink it and simply just have fun. I’ll admit, it took all of those elements to get me to that mental space. But now that I’ve experienced that, it’s incredibly difficult to go back.

Fashionably fabulous and free she felt in this little piece of style.

What’s changed since then?

  • I’m not shy about being in a bathing suit — and no longer care that I don’t have a model body.
  • I don’t feel shy about owning my femininity.
  • I flirt, a lot actually. At the gym, the grocery store, walking in my neighborhood…
  • I post photos on Instagram just because I feel sexy and want to share and empower other women. No more shame in my game!
  • I don’t take myself so seriously because life’s too short.

More importantly, what I’ve discovered for myself is that sexiness isn’t about looks. It’s about freedom. Freedom from what anyone else thinks — and freedom from the thoughts that used to hold me back. And wow, the power that can be gained from that. Ladies, I’m daring you to embrace your femininity,  your sexuality and do it with no fear, no shame, and no guilt! I will be back for my finale!

tu-anh Love and I on one of our boat outings…

JUST “LOVE”

Hope your Summer has been wonderful and active. Just wanted to share the note below I found from a dear client that I had worked with many many years ago, especially now that I am tu-anh Love and have left my corporate advisory work completely since my birthday this past May. Currently, I am focusing 100% on my passion for designing and creating beautiful things and sharing my love of life with others to enlighten them. Let’s just say that I am happy to be back home to my divine feminine energy and who I truly was meant to be….just simply “LOVE”

Just “LOVE”

(From the Crazy Client, he called himself)

So yes, I do wonder of this person whom came into my life.

She helps so many and changed my whole life.

Changed?

I was on that track a long while ago and somehow lost the lane I was in.

The lane of true happiness and caring and being cared for and finding love and loving.

I looked so long in all the wrong places.

Forcing what wasn’t, wishing it should be

Then that day I found, “Love”

Did God truly manifest love as a person?

I see you daily, and I call you Love

Not just for me, but for my children, and the world, and so many special others.

Wow.

So God created “Love,” and put this in a person.

He named you, “Love”.

I’m so happy I found you.

There is nothing more rewarding than seeing your flowers bloom so radiantly!

Unblock Your Throat Chakra with Blue!

I love plants and flowers! This is my favorite season for gardening!

In the world of Buddhism, the color blue is the color of purity, tranquility, and of healing the soul. In the history of the United States of America, blue stands for perseverance, vigilance, and justice.  And in my world of love and light, blue represents heaven, truth, honor, freedom, intelligence, kindness, trust, loyalty, and the Mediterranean Sea!

Let’s honor and send gratitude prayers to those who died while serving our country.

On the spiritual level, blue is the color of the Throat Chakra, our communication center. When you can communicate your truth freely and clearly with ease, you will become your most authentic self, the self that you were meant to be. How often do you take the time to listen to your higher self and speak honestly and openly without fear? Do you often express what needs to be expressed and say what needs to be said? If your answers are no, then it means that your Throat Chakra may need some healing and balancing. That is simple and easy to do! Why not start with baby steps by wearing blue? It is my favorite color other than pink.

I love to recharge by the water in silence and under the clear blue sky.

Happy Memorial Weekend! I hope you are enjoying the start of Summer. The photos are compliments of Charles Martin Photography in my favorite blue dresses from our goddess collection at the sanctuary. I hope it inspires you to add more blue in your wardrobe if you are not already doing so. Until next time!

~tu-anh love

Animals, of course are one of the best form of therapy!